Over the past couple years I have been interested in lots of girls, but almost none of them ever expressed even the slightest bit of interest in me, they all tell me I am awesome but never want to date me, some straight up reject me, others get a boyfriend which prompts me to stop liking her. Literally every girl I talk to says something like "You are such an awesome guy, you are so handsome, you are so nice, and you are a smart guy, you will get a beautiful girlfriend". I am 21 and still waiting for that beautiful girlfriend everyone is telling me about, because I still haven't met her, or any girlfriend for that matter. When every girl is telling me I am a good catch, but none of them are willing to actually date me that makes me both mad and confused. My friend was trying to make me feel better about it and told me he thought that maybe they didn't think they were good enough for me, but is that really something girls do? I am beginning to think that I am not nearly as great as these girls are telling me if I never get any interest from girls. Could that be it? I haven't had a girl express interest in me since 10th grade, Why do these girls not consider dating me?
Most Helpful Girl
If girls are saying that you are genuinely a nice guy, there are two main things I think you may be doing wrong:
a) coming on as desperate or showing too many problems.
A girl doesn't want to take care of you all the time; make sure the girl knows that you can take care of someone besides yourself.
b) you may be accidentally presenting yourself as a very average guy.
You might get along with everyone, but without a spark why would a girl choose you above other people? Let girls know about your interests and show off personality traits that make you unique :).1
Most Helpful Guy
Wow it's like I wrote this post... On the same boat as you man. Girls don't like guys that actually want to feel emotionally connected to them before trying to get in their pants. You most likely are an awesome person, but no girl probably feels like they need to "snatch you" because you're just a good human being. Best of luck!2