I am 18 and quite sensitive, reserved, modest, emotional and quiet. I am very attracted to older men because my dad is my best friend, and I subconsciously project my dad's personality and love onto certain older men.
However, whenever they catch me staring at them I look away and blush and giggle... they can obviously sense that I am attracted to them, but I know they just look at me as vulnerable prey. I don't know how they sense it, or how they can tell I am a very emotionally sensitive girl.
It makes me sad that especially predators have targeted me in the past because I always assumed that men liked loving, caring, sensitive girls who would look after them. Like cooking for them, cuddling them, kissing them... but I feel so used up by older men trying to take advantage of me.
This has been happening ever since I was 17.
HOW can they sense I am "prey" for them? Because that's all I feel like right now.
Most Helpful Guy
Just because you perceive a threat doesn't mean it's actually there. I'd say it's almost impossible all of them see you as prey; let me relate a story from my own life: I personally wanted to kill my sister's ex-husband (as she did also) who was trying to molest her two daughters by a previous marriage. Many of us older guys just think: "She is going to be cute and find a suitable man when she turns 18, etc., bu if I hear of a man who has messed her over, that man better run."
Men find your personality to be endearing, so it's mostly that in a general sense. I wonder if you have had one of these older guys try to do anything to you? Is there a definite act in the past that is making you see threats all around?0
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Most Helpful Girl
You need to be very careful. No 17 year old should be dating men in their 30s-50s, and any man that age who wants a 17 year old has bad intentions. I'm quite confused as you said you like older guys but then are upset because they target you? Of course theyre trying to take advantage of you because you're young and easy to manipulate. Nothing good will come from dating guys that much older than you because you're not mature enough, and guys that old interested in a 17 year old have bad intentions. I honestly think you should see a therapist about this.1