I need advice please read;
I m 23 and clearly feeling helpless. I live at home with my mother and sister (who is severly depressed and suffers from some kind of disorder) She literally put so much thoughts in my head of our hometown is boring, no people, nothing to do, just plain negative thoughts. Because of that i really started to believe that my life is hopeless and i became depressed with her.
My older bro and young sis moved out at 18 and aren't on speaking terms with me anymore, my bro thinks i should move out and get a place in my hometown. I feel discouraged to do so because i feel like my life is hopeless here and im not happy.
I have two options either move out at a place in my hometown while in debt by the way and start off small, or move out to another big city alone, no family no friends... or stay at home for a little while even tho it isn't a healthy enviroment?
Most Helpful Guy
Wherever you go is where you are !
People place and things cannot make a person happy or depressed.
All of the happiness is to be had right in the same seat you are sitting in.
If you want more stress and pain then continue to place values on the environment surrounding you whether it's people in your life or places to stay or go to.
Surrender your thoughts to the desired happiness you believe with every deep notion of changing your mindset. I find it through My Creator of my understanding.
I then ask for what I desire. "let's start with happiness" then believe deep down in my soul that I will and am receiving it. Do not doubt the process. Full heartily pray and meditate about what desires are there for you to receive freely and almost effortless devotion to this mindset.
You will realize less stress and less depression is seeping in your soul filling your heart with purpose.
Live life as it is intended and be happy wherever you go.
NOTHING IS HOPELESS !
you have choice what are you going to do about it?0
Most Helpful Girl
It's Not Easy to live under the same roof with people, especially loved ones, who have Mental issues. It's Not healthy for sure, and it can be a real downer and frowner on your own part, making you go in a slump real quick.
It's time, however, to focus on you now. Your two other siblings fly the coop and now it is time you thought of spreading your own wings to the same.
However, with no nest egg saved I find it is Not Off to a good start. You need to find a job first or even ask one of your siblings if you might nest with them for awhile until you get on your feet as you look for a job.
If that's not possible, do get a job, save as much as you can, so you can decide what is Best from the Rest for you.
I have left my own mom and dad and very rarely came back to roost with them, mostly just to visit when I can. I made it on my own, met many friends along my way, traveled and lived all over, even abroad, and right Now... It has made me stronger longer and more confident as a person because I did it all by myself, Having... Started off small although smart.
I know what it means, on another note, to have this sour 'Note' with family who have these issues. But if they are on medication, which is probably the only way they can deal with their problems, then you have to think of yourself so you don't end up going crazy and lazy.
Good luck. xx0