He says he wouldn't be offended if I see other guys but that he's not interested in dating other women. "No time or energy". He's also not sure if he's feeling it long term. Yet he still wants to "keep seeing me". The few times I asked about our status, he gives confusing answers like, "I might refer to you as my girlfriend but I wouldn't likely refer to you as my friends with benefits " It's been going on for a year. We go on dates Fri or Sat nights. Then sleepover and spend time together until 2pm the next day. For dates we usually jog together, go to the movies, play video games, go out to dinner, etc. He insists on paying for the dates everytime lately, but in the past we took turns. And yes he calls them "dates". He texts me each day. But he says he's been too exhausted to see me on work nights. (Sun - Thur). This didn't used to matter because I would come over when he was tired. I used to see him 3-4x / week until his brother moved in 2 months ago. His brother keeps his clothes in his bedroom since there's no other closet space so we can't lock the door. He feels weird about me being over while his brother is there so I only come over when his brother is out. I met a few of his friends but not his family who lives in the same neighborhood. He also lives a 20 minute walk from me. He introduces me by my name. He's interested in day trips, but never out of town getaways. Does this sound like friends with benefits to you? BF/Gf without the title? Semi-casual? Or what?
Most Helpful Guy
Semi-casual. That is just as far as he wants to go. He just wants the type of relationship that you can spent time together and do your thing, but not have the official label or full level of commitment and dedication of a true relationship. Kinda like a friends with benefits, but heavy on the friend side. He doesn't need anything more from you, or anyone else. But he does seem to know or feel that maybe you do need more and that is why he is leaving the door open for you to find someone else if you need.0
Most Helpful Girl
This is a very complicated situation.
He (wasn't) sure about being in a long term relationship... but it's been a year already? What made you decide to stay? Mmm... I'm guessing you developed strong feelings for him along the way but afraid of being rejected chose to abide by his rules. The problem here is, you are swimming against the tide. If he didn't changed his mind after a long time, the chances of that happening now are very low. He grew used to it. My advice is, stay if you want that type of non-defined relationship or get out and find someone who can give you more than him.0