Hey everyone. I know this women in her late 30's (i think 39) from my gym for just over a year. My interactions have never shown any affection other than the usual casual "hey" or "hi, how are you?" type questions. Then about 2 weeks ago she asked me out and it sort of caught me off-guard and for some strange reason i accepted (i have no idea why and i realize now that its a mistake to accept her) to go out on a date. She also asked me in plane sight of everyone else and i think her friends were also watching so maybe i felt a little inclined to not reject her there in front of eveyone.
We went on a "date" and although i tried to best explain to her that we can just be friends she was like "Oh, don't worry, we won't rush into anything for now" and "you never know what the future holds", so i don't think what i told her went through to her.
I am not looking for any kind of relationship and i was just wondering if you folks can offer some advice on how i can tell her nicely that its just not for me without her feeling depressed or hurting her feelings? Please help
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Next time you see her at the gym, just pull her to the side and explain that she's lovely but you're not interested, and that you're not looking for a relationship right now. Then do nothing to initiate contact with her, and if she asks you out again, just say something like "sorry, like I said, I can't".2