I don't know. People have their insecurities and want everything to be politically correct but deep down we all have preferences and can't help what we're attracted to. Everyone will find something to whine about for eternity, it won't change anything and anyone who bashes you for having preferences for dating is just being a hypocrite because they to, will have preferences and standards, no matter how much they refuse to admit it.
Which leads me on to another point saying it is very unlikely that attraction for one quality which is continuous (such as height) can be so isolated for it to be such a discriminating factor. If anything, if you had a preference for tall guys then I could see the idea of being short is a turn-off that tends to outweigh other attractive qualities in which you find in men then I could understand that. But for you to flat out say you are only attracted to tall men is a naive generalization. It's almost as if you want to believe that you are only attracted to tall men when it is very likely it's not specifically height by itself which that is the absolute thing towards your claim.
If you claim you are "only" attracted to tall men, you are also indirectly saying all other attractive qualities you may find attractive in a guy are automatically void if they not tall enough which is a double standard.
Oh and regarding men's bitterness and rudeness towards "preferences". Usually when we dive into the reasoning behind those "preferences," those "preferences" tend to be based on prejudice and over generalizations. This goes for male preference bashing as well.
@Mesonfielde What's your opinion on what I said? Any things you don't agree with or I haven't considered?
Why do people bash me for saying I don't wanna date a fat chick? Or a tallk chick? Or an emo chick? it's not because you're a woman, not everything is sexism, it's because people get offended when you don't have the type they are as they feel rejected.
Probably because its kinda shallow and based on something the other person can't really change, although I believe that everyone is allowed to have a preference no matter how shallow it seems.
Also this doesn't happen only with women, If there was a post about breast size and I said that I like big tits and thats why I refuse to date anyone who has less than D's I guarantee you I would get down arrowed and get some comments about it.
Probably because its a really dumb idea to exclude people based on something arbitrary. At your age you can get away with it because the playing field is still pretty open. Once you are over 30 and still single... its a really dumb idea.
I dated a girl who couldn't handle my height (5'6", she is 5'4")., she only wanted 6' guys. Even though in her words I was the best guy she had ever known, she couldn't get over her issue with height.
I tried explaining that chasing a unicorn is a bad idea she just kept letting it get in the way. Three years later she keeps wanting to get back together because... shocker... she can't find her unicorn.
Expand your range a little. You may be shocked at what's out there.
because you can't change height. it's a standard that you have that's 100% genetic and out of their control. it's the mentality that you will ditch a short guy can have an amazing personality who's otherwise attractive physically for a guy who's tall that is less attractive and kinda a dickhead. it comes off as extremely superficial. it's like when girls bitch about guys liking girls only with big tits and is a hot piece of ass. granted, i personally like girls with bigger boobs and an ass, but most guys really don't give a shit and not having either is a deal breaker unlike girls who tend to have this strict cutoff, like you seem to. and then, no offense, but then tend to complain about finding the right guy.
Because you judge the persons entire worth on a single trait, in this case one they have no control over. That itself isn't even an issue except for the fact tha women everywhere shame men who don't like fat women, or skinny women, or ugly women, or tall women etc. etc. etc. Of all characteristics its a rather stupid one to fixate on but again I don't see an issue with it if you want to pass on some one simply because of how tall they are thats your perogative.
Because it only amplifies how picky women are and decreases even more for guys that are short their chances of getting a women so they take offense to it because their really isn't they can do about it. How tall do they need to be btw?
preferences are fine... but imagine a guy just casually said " wow a girl like (insert everything you are and what you look like here) is horrible... i would never date such a girl). how would you react to that? like: "yeah you´re right who would date that girl" ?
Suppose I am a tall guy and you approach me and say " Hey, I want to go out with you because you are tall, so I am attracted to you." And I tell you "Hey, I am only attracted to non-ugly girls , so.. sorry."
Well that's not a preference really. It's more of a demand if there's no circumstance in which you'd date a shorter guy. That's still fine though and i wouldn't bash, but i wouldn't trust you in a relationship. Like "oh shit if i was shorter, everything inside me she claims to love would be worth noting to her"
So yea, i wouldn't bash because I'm not crazy enough to believe you represent 100 percent of the female population, but i do pass judgement on people with demands about superficial things like height.
But it goes both ways. Women say the same dumb shit guys say about preferences on this site.
If you don't want to receive rude opinions stop giving stupid comments. .. don't think im being rude here.. just think with your head... when a guy telling you that he doesn't like you, because you are and you are and you are... what would be your reaction? .. u get that... The point is there are some stuff that we need to keep it to ourselves, you might think it's nothing but it might hurt somebody else. .. people has insecurities, everybody does, height and size are the biggest.. if you think you like tall guys keep it to yourself, you don't need to tell short guys that you like the tall ones... THAT'S RUDE... hope you learned the lesson.
Women like this is what makes men bitter u can say. Why would u not date sumone ur height as well? When u think about it, its quite funnay. Why wouldn't u give those ur height a chance? When they constantly getting rejected for that shiz, they became frustrated and building up hatred inside of then. Sadly there's not enough cuties for every doods so the cuties have the power to choose. I wonder what would be like if women outnumbered men ;P
It's like saying "I'm only attracted to white people", in both cases, it's not something they can change and it's more like you're saying there's something wrong or off-putting about their quality than it just being something you prefer.
I am not short first off, so take that into mind... On the other hand, if the respondee gives an equal rejection back I notice the Mr. 'Isn't tall, muscular, etc. etc. enough' says somethings the girl goes crazy.
Some women as well as some women just want to hate on people...
Well you got to understand that a short man is short his entire life, there is really nothing he can do about it at all. When a man is told he is not good enough because of something that god gave him that he has no control over, it can cause great sadness and feelings of exclusion.
Here is my counter-question: What if you were dating a wonderful tall man and he got hit by a car and lost the lower part of his legs, and was confined to a wheelchair for the rest of his life? Would you leave him because he suddenly got shorter due to a car hitting him when he was just trying to cross the street?
because that are bashed for being small on a daily bases besides, preferences are held with too much importance... while standards are not. say you finally find your big, strong hunk, things a great til you live with him... then you find out he's an abusive psychopath. i'm against living together before marriage... but the type of guys i mentioned? not so much
Because women say that they like the personality, when it is true that everybody has there personality and body preferences. It just seems a lazy excuse to reject people. But you are free to like only tall guys, but remember there are short guys that can make you fall in love for them, like there are girls that werent my type but their personalitys made me interested on them.
Because they feel like demonizing women for being 'superficial', having 'unrealistic standards' that are completely ridiculous will make the women be in the wrong. Sort of justifying being rejected, making it as the dumpee's gain versus a loss or blow to their ego.
Plain and simply because people have fragile self esteem. They take the prospect personally, putting themselves in the place of someone who is rejected based on height. Chances are the people with an issue with this are short and have been rejected for similar reasons. Pay no mind to it, everyone has preferences.
They take it personally... But you stick to your preferences. Everyone has them - even when they don't want to admit it. But what you said isn't a preference - it's a requirement... that's different. Since you said you won't date shorter men - not that you'd prefer to date tall men, but you'd only date the tall ones. Still your own choice, but more offensive to those that aren't tall...
You wouldn't date the best guy in the world just because he's under your arbitrary height limit? People tend to dislike that.
Anyway having standards is fine, but what I notice most often, is that girls who set these arbitrary standards, often whine about how hard it is to find a boyfriend. This hypocrisy is the actual problem. Only wanting to date tall guys is fine, just don't come crying to me when you can't find anyone to meet your impossibly high standards.
Because you're actually taking their opinions and comments seriously. You like what you like. If people don't like it when you vocalize that preference, then they don't like it. But you shouldn't get all butthurt over it, it's just their opinion.