why do so many guys on here assume that girls have it super easy when it comes to dating and that all, or at leats most girls, get approached often etc?
Im not supermodel attractive nor very outgoing, so maybe thats why my sitatuation is what it is, but finding a cool guy to date is very hard actually.
i have asked guys out (been stood up pretty much everytime), i have approached guys, i have been inactive and let guys approach me etc. I have done this for 2-3 years or so, and i still haven't met a guy that i have a connection with (that lasted)
Many of my friend experience the same.. they got approached a bit more then me, bu they are more outgoing and it was mostly guys who only wanted sex so they still didn't get what they wanted.
yeah, i do get approached.. but not by the guys i want.. So picture a scenario where the only few girls that showed any interest with you were realy obese girl or unattractive girls that aren't interesting nor have anything emtionally, mentally or physically to offer you?
I wouldn't say ALL women have it easier but SOME women certainly do and I would say as MOST women do not approach men, it's harder for men because there is more pressure, men are supposed to approach women.
If women are getting approached by guy after guy that doesn't float their boat then they need to be PROACTIVE.
I have sympathy for women who expect everything to be given to them because they were born with a vagina.
Sort yourselves out, please, the self-entitlement SOME women have is scandalous.
They feel this way because they are only seeing their side of the story. They don't realize that women have the same problems. They just assume that women have it much easier. But they don't. The only people who have it easy are those who are very likeable, popular and really good looking who also happen to be very lucky in dating.
They don't see that women have the same fears, problems and challenges when it comes to dating. I've seen so many questions on here where guys are complaining about not being able to find a girlfriend, but then they say the only girls who approach them are too fat, or are ugly. Well excuse me, but maybe they need to really think whether their standards may be too high?
I'm not saying that's the case for everyone, but sometimes giving a person a shot is not the end of the world. I can't tell you how many guys refuse to even go for a coffee with me just because of how I look.
I'm not a supermodel, but neither are they. I don't approach guys who are super fit and super good looking, I know my value in the looks department.
It's frustrating, but you can't take it personally. Not everyone is going to like you. I think when it comes to guys who say women have it easier, they don't see the tears and broken hearts of the girls who have the same problems.
It's really crappy when you invest lots of time in a relationship to find out it was all a lie. It's also crappy when you have a hard time meeting people in real life.
We all face challenges. The only people who have it easier are the lucky ones lol
There was this obese girl from middle school and high school who wanted to get laid with me, she kept forcing herself on me one day because she liked how my voice changed... Thank God I didn't have sex with her, she probably would've murdered me. I've mentioned this many times before, but I find all girls attractive. However, this girl scared the living shit out of me.
Now, to answer your question, *LOL sorry I love telling stories on this site for some reason*, I don't think it's easy for either gender when it comes to dating. I think my biggest problems were I was always afraid of being myself and deep down inside I just wanted someone I loved and someone who loved me back.
I've had this discussion recently with a friend and I admit I was among the guys who thought girls have it easy. But seeing how her dating life is I have to agree with you. Girls don't really have it easy, more so because you are careful about who you date. If dating was meant only to sleep with the person, I don't think girls would have a problem, but I do understand that finding guys who are actually serious about looking at dates to have a relationship of any kind, its not easy.
If we knew what you look like we could easily answer your question. You won't get approached by cool good looking guys if you're not cool & good looking. What good qualities do you have? You probably don't have many good qualities if good quality guys aren't approaching you and asking you out
Dont chu understand that most guys who apporach usually approach for smex? If u want a better chance, u gotta approach them urself by obersving the persons behavior and u can kinda get the vibe of who or what that person is really about.
Putting aside all the bullshit the ladies here are saying, 95% of them would crumble in an emotionally messed up heap on the floor if they had to approach guys and experience all the rejection we do.
Women have it much easier; most are just not intellectually honest enough to admit it.
Never said they have it easy.
But they sure as hell have it significantly easier than men.
They never really tried to put themselves in a girls shoes is why.
Girls though, don't appreciate how difficult it is for not so attractive guys. Probably because less attractive guys are just invisible to them.
Guys and girls have it equally hard getting into a relationship. Girls have an easier time though getting a first date or casual sex.
It's easy for girls to get sex, in comparison with men.
It's relatively easy for women age 18-24 to date in comparison with men, do to supply/demand imbalances. It's relatively easier for men age 25 and up to date, though the magnitude is smaller.
These are averages though. A great looking outgoing 20 year old guy has it much easier than an overweight, shy girl of that age, and a slim, pretty 30 year old woman has it a lot easier than an unemployed out of shape and timid 30 year old guy.
They think that just because men are still expected to approach women (which they do), women have it easier. Which is true, to an extent, but girls can only hugely benefit from it if they literally don't care whom to date. I guess they're just tired of always doing all the work, so they get a bit bitter. In reality, they actually have it easier, because they can pick any girl and approach her. It's not guaranteed that she will say yes of course, but at least guys are not limited to choosing from people who approach them, as girls are. That's why ladies should start approaching guys you like first, that's what I do.
They're so consumed in their self-pity that they are completely unrealistic about what specific struggles individuals, who happen to have a vagina, may encounter in the dating world. It's actually quite self-absorbed.
Just remember: Having more people hitting on you is not the same as having more temptation. The fact that more people are up in somebody's face doesn't mean that they're having an easier time than everyone else. Don't get hung up on "who has more options" or "who has it easier"; focus on yourself and your relationship.