I know some hate the idea of leagues but just imagine a girl who is attractive to most men but a guy who isn't as attractive to as many women. Just think of the average guy and a model or a very successful attractive woman.
Should I take it slowly, should I try a pick up line or would she be tired of them or do I even try?
Most Helpful Girl
First, be in her league! Think about your best qualities... Funny? Nice? Respectful? Ambitious? Genuine? Stylish? Figure out your best assets and figure out WHY you are a great catch... After that (this is the hard part) be confident, not just with her but every woman and every person in your life! Just know you're valuable and exude that, don't treat her like she's out of your league. just talk to her like you are as valuable as you think she is. let yourself know that if a certain person doesn't see your value, that's their mistake because they just could recognize your best qualities!!
It's awesome having a crush, but realize that she's just another person, no better or no worse than any other girl!! Treat her well, treat her like you expect her to treat you and if she doesn't then SHE's not good enough for YOU!
Looks alone do not make a good catch, if she's a smart and not shallow girl she'll give a guy a chance if she's attracted to any of his qualities!! That being said, attraction is key ( not just physical) and she may not click with you but that's cool too, she's just a normal girl after all!!
Confidence is amazing!1
Most Helpful Guy
Nobody is out of anybody's league. the heart wants what the heart wants. Think about the man who played Superman Christopher Reed. and his non actress wife, when they hooked up he was a top of the world and everybody knew him and looked up to him. Was she out of his league? then an terrible accident occurred that paryolized him was he all the sudden out of her league?
This makes just about as much sense as any league ranking scenario.
WE ARE ALL HUMAN
there is nothing to be afraid of another person ever it just doesn't make sense. we all eat poop and die there is not much difference from one to another.
as soon as you get this mindset it will diminish any fears.
there is not secret code to talking to women no pick up lines , just easy flowing conversation, be yourself and if you have any bit of a personality then just be yourself. it is this simple kids.
do you fear talking to the grocery clerk at checkout? nope you don't , why? because you don't have a vested interest in being rejected or not.
this is how we must approach any friendly conversation , no expectations and no disappointment if it doesn't click. so there is no room to invite fear in any conversation.
this is so simple do not ever bring a measuring stick to compare or rate a personality that is un-measurable.4