I'm a virgin and I want to have sex but find the right guy first. And be in a committed relationship where we really love and care about each other.
I've heard that men need sex to feel loved, and without it, they will feel unfulfilled in a relationship. Is it true the right guy will wait until I'm ready, or am I just being completely native? I'm talking a few months really getting to know each other, getting progressively more intimate, not years or marriage.
And of course I'd like to enjoy everything between making out and piv with a guy I really care about.
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Interesting question, but it's tainted with vagueness, ambiguity, and imprecision with respect to language.
In order to be the Pope, you must be a man.
You are not a man, can you be the Pope? (No)
You are a man, does that mean you are the Pope? (No)
If it rains, the roads will get wet.
If rained, what must be true about the roads? (They're wet)
The roads are wet, therefore, it must have rained, right? (No! It could have snowed. A bum could have taken a piss on the roads. Rain is just "one way" the roads can be wet, but not "the only way.")
When you say, "sex," do you mean "the physical act of vaginal penetration by the penis?" I don't think "that" is a "necessary condition."
"Sex" is a basic physiological need. Obviously, if the more basic lower-level needs are left unsatisfied, then a person is not capable of fully desiring the fulfillment of the higher level needs. Yet, be careful to distinguish "sex" (first level need) from "sexual intimacy" (third level need).
A better version of Maslow's pyramid illustrates this dynamic more clearly. All emotional needs are "selfish." We want our genitalia to be stimulated. We want to eat food. We want to sleep. We want to feel recognized for our accomplishments. We want to feel like "morally good" and "giving" people (i. e., self-actualization). Those are all "selfish" emotional needs.
The fact that we kill an animal so that we may eat, or forgo going to a party so that we may sleep, or pay a stripper or escort cash to receive contact to our genitals, or give money to charity to feel like good people, or "care about our partner's needs," etc., are merely "incidental" to us satisfying our own selfish emotional needs.
The goal of women is to have a man "care for her needs" because the man is trying to satisfy his fifth-level "self-actualization" emotional need to feel like a good altruistic and complete person.
The fear of women is to have a man "care for her needs" merely as a means of allowing himself to satisfy his first-level physiological needs.
So, what is the "strategy" to safeguard from this happening? Not have sex with the man, of course! Duh! That way, his first-level and third-level needs are satisfied, and he is emotionally capable of actually fully desiring the fulfillment of his fifth-level emotional needs (sarcasm emphasized).3