I have a very nice friend with benefits. We are really good friends besides the sex. I told him I was getting some feelings for him, he told me he had felt the same a while ago, but that we should just remain as friends.
After that I decided to be more open to other guys and I went on dates into two guys: the nice guy and the bad guy (no sex or kissing with any of them). I'm feeling kind of guilty that I'm kind of juggling 3 guys at the same time? But then I don't really have a compromise with any of them, and I'm just getting to know the other 2 better while the first one warms up my feet?
Is this a bad thing?
Should I inform friend with benefits I'm getting to know more guys... or should I just tell him if it gets serious/ or physical with one of the other guys?
Since you are not in a relationship with any of these men then I wouldn't bother informing any of them but if you do start sleeping with one more than one man then it might be an idea to let your friends with benefit know and that applies if you enter a new relationship. Unless you enjoy going from man-to-man and enjoy committing acts of infidelity.
You shouldn't need to inform anything to friends with benefits that all they are fwb! Do you want to catch feeling for him? When you are ready to settle with a guy, tell your friends with benefits bye bye!
Honestly It wouldn't and doesn't bother me who she's sleeping with, or has been. You've just met and started dating, so there's no need to become overly anxious or suspicious over what she's doing. It's not like you've made some kind of serious commitment to someone. Now if you decide to give it a go as a couple, thats another story completely.
As for the friend's with benefits guy, he should understand that's exactly what you are doing. An friends with benefits should end any time one begins a relationship with someone else and you both need to be clear about your expectations.
Either of you will certainly date someone at some point and you won't remain single forever. He should be the one who knows you're looking for a relationship.
well its wrong to the men you are dating. i was actually in a situation like this in my early twenties. the women picked me and i didn't find out till over a year later that she had been fucking a guy when we met. so i dumped her. haven't heard from her since.
Interesting... first you're doing nothing wrong. You've been open and up front with the friends with benefits... My opinion, the FWB's thing rarely works. Someone ALWAYS ends up hurt. Someone always ends up with feelings (which has happened to each of you) - I think it would be interesting to see how friends with benefits guy reacts if you tell him you are physical with someone else. That might be the kick in pants he needs to get a little more serious with you. Right now you're his "sure thing" with no commitment. Sorta having his cake and eating it too... which is okay because you have a mutual agreement. BUT... I bet some jealousy might arise if the thought of you being with someone else came about! :)