I date mostly younger girls, though not entirely by choice. I'm 23 but the girls who seem interested in dating me are usually in their teens. My girlfriend right now is 18, and my female friends have to prod me about that any time I talk about her. It's not all just good-natured ribbing, either. I get a real sense that they want to make me feel bad for dating someone younger. One friend even told me that I date younger girls because I'm scared of girls my age. The reality is that girls my age all want to be with guys who are close to 30 with established careers and money, neither of which I have right now.
I don't see anything wrong with me dating a freshman girl, so why do they want to shame me for dating the girls who actually want to be with me?
I don't think there's anything wrong with dating younger girls as long as it ain't illegal. All men I've dated were way older than me. My first boyfriend was 24 and I was 18, I was engaged to a 33 year old and was dating a 36 year old for a while. Personally I wouldn't look twice if it came to men dating younger gurls
It's not you that refers to. It's that some men seem to always want women aged 18, no matter how old they are themselves. 30, 40, 50 , 60 ... and at some point it just gets ridiculous. There's an element of taking advantage of someone young and naive and also the element of being extremely shallow and selfish. For what other reason would they want a woman that age. And then there's also arrogance and entitlement. The idea that no matter how old and ugly they get, they deserve to have a woman in her prime. As you can tell by all the guys that claim men age like wine. Which you don't. You can argue about who ages worse, but for all of us attractiveness and physical health decline with age. In your id 20s you're likely as attractive as you'll ever be and likely as healthy as you'll ever be
If you're honest you wouldn't want your 18 year old daughter or sister to be with a guy twice or thrice her age. Most people understand it as inherently wrong, even if they can't pinpoint why it is
I think because... sometimes it seems like older guys take advantage of younger girls. They use their age and possibly experience to... really shape the relationship and take it places that maybe the girl might not want to go, but she goes anyways because she doesn't want to "lose" the older guy (which is a status symbol for young girls) and she's too young/immature/psychologically undeveloped to see how she's being manipulated.
Might not be the case with you, but I've seen it plenty of times. And your friend is right- older guys sometimes go for younger girls because they are simply easier to manipulate than someone their own age who is more mature, has greater cognitive development. There is a huge difference between minors and adults- it's been documented.