I started dating this really great guy a little over 2 months ago. Things were going great, and then we had "The Talk" a month in, which he initiated. Up to this point, we had already been intimate, and we both acted like things were progressing to bf/gf status (i. e. committed relationship). We were seeing each other a couple times a week, going on dates, etc.
He dropped the dreaded, I'm not ready for a committed relationship yet. He felt like we were on different pages, things were progressing too quickly, and the timing was just off. He said he wanted to slow things down.
Up until we met, he said he had just started feeling like his normal self again, like he could be alone (he enjoys his alone time). His last relationship ended badly and she cheated on him. I think a lot of our talk spawned because he saw his ex and her boyfriend together one night, and it really got to him. Made him think, what if it happens again? Am I jumping into things too soon? I understand he's not quite over what happened.
He said he has feelings for me; he's not seeing anyone else (I didn't even ask, he just flat out said it); he deleted his dating profile after our talk, but deleted the app long ago; I'm the type of woman he wants to be with; and he does see a committed relationship with me. He also said that he is going to continue to give me the type of relationship that I want, he just wants us on the same page.
He said "The Talk" was actually a good talk, and he wanted to be honest. We didn't see each other for a couple weeks afterward, but when we did, sparks were flying! haha. We've went on a few more dates since (making dinner together, watching movies, etc.). He even initiated a date night! Things have pretty much been back to normal.
But based on all of this, is he really just not ready yet but he eventually will be, or am I being strung along?
Is this simply because he is trying to pull back more, slow things down?