I'm 21 year old guy, known this girl for only about 2 months, met at the gym, only hung out wit her 4 times outside of the gym(she was the one who asked me to hang every time except the last time) so the last time we hung out, I asked her how she felt about me, she said she thought I was a nice guy, fun guy blah blah but she thought it was understood that we were just friends and that she doesn't feel that "connection, at least not yet" so I told her I'm interested in her and that basically its kind of a waste of time if she doesn't see this going anywhere. So I figured the next week or two she would lay low and not talk to me so much, BUT NOPE, OTHER WAY AROUND. She talks to me ALMOST every day, and then this past week she texted me or Imed me Tuesday-Friday asking me what's up/ what I ate for dinner/if I'm going to the gym, etc. (I hardly ever contact her first) yet she never ASKS me to hang out with her. Do you think she is POSSIBLY starting to see me in a diff light and is just scared? And should I ask her to chill again soon?
and I haven't asked her to hang out at all in the past month except last saturday night I asked her if her and her friend wanted to meet me and my friend at applebees and she was like "i would, but I'm in my pajamas and I'm studying, and I can't eat anything cause I gotta get blood work done tomorrow"
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Well, it sounds like this girl doesn't have any friends in her life and views you as her friend. She has already told you that she doesn't feel a romantic connection with you, so there can be nothing else that she feels towards you other than being a friend. It sounds as though she is very needy and you may be her only friend at this time. I would draw some boundaries with her to keep her from becoming dependent on you to be her only friend, and especially if you would like to have more of a relationship with her than just friends. Drawing boundaries with her will prove to her that you have a life outside of her, and it may give her more respect for you as a potential partner or mate for the future. She may begin to see you in a different light. Also, do not do "friend" stuff with her if you want more than that. She will either start to feel a spark towards you because you are saying no to her (and women love that! ) or else she will get mad and hit the road. Either way, you'll be a winner!0