I FEEL as though my weight holds me back a lot.. I get that "oh I'm cute but I'm fat " from guys a lot.. I want to be smaller and I want a skinny guy and no I'm not shallow Im just attracted to fit looking gys
If you want to get attention from fit guys you actually have to be honest about what you seek and not just going for a random fit guy. Many fitness guys do prefer to date a girl that's into fitness herself, but if you communicate what you want you, may find a suitable guy. The problem is that, just like yourself, many plus size women are afraid to seem shallow or having double standard if she's wanting something she can't provide herself. But don't be it's much better to be honest about it.
I'm not exactly fat or skinny. I'm chubby, and yes I do get a lot of attention from guys. All who are skinny. I guess my "pretty face" and "nice ass" help a lot. I don't give any of the guys a chance cause I got my mind set on one guy who's older than me and we can't be together cause of his age.