Loving someone can be different to being in love with someone. So to not speak it for fear of not feeling it. Then we can always use this term of not being in love but being able to love them for who they are. So your not lying. Your just reserving the commitment for another time. X
If someone doesn't feel the same way I want them to be honest. I've had the situation happen ALL TOO OFTEN by the way, where I love a guy and he doesn't even care. He's just in the relationship to get sex and the girlfriend experience. I always hear the excuse "Well, you kept talking to me". Ummm ya, that's what gf's do! I'm not a mind reader. If a guy doesn't like me or no longer has an interest in the relationship he has to tell me. I don't have time for bs anymore
If they continue on like nothing is wrong, and even say everything is fine when I ask, then it's not my fault that I didn't know.
I don't play games and wouldn't put someone through the pain of saying I loved someone if they didn't love me.
Meh. To be honest I don't really understand why people are in relationships with someone when they don't feel like they love them.. A relationship is when you are willing to commit to each other and potentially get married.. so why?
Being honest is important. I usually let my partner know how happy I am that they love me and I explain how I feel, maybe I need more time, or maybe I feel the same way, either way it's very important to first acknowledge that you are happy about their proclamation.
I wouldn't be with them if I didn't love them. Unless they said it like at an awkwardly early stage like weeks or months into it. Also how long I've known them before dating. If it was a very fresh relationship I'd say "I don't want to hurt you but we've only known each other for x weeks. I'm gonna pretend I didn't hear that and we will say I love you to each other in a more romantic setting" in a way to defuse it. I've been led on and id rather be shut down early than strung along
I would definitely NOT say it back unless it was true and I really meant it. I hate when people say those words just to say it to make their partner feel good. If it isn't true then that takes away the whole meaning behind saying 'I love you' in the first place. It's just not genuine. So, I would not lie about my feelings like that. Instead, I would just tell them that while I do care for them, I don't feel that strongly yet (I say 'yet' because if it's a relationship, I'm sure I will feel that way at some point in the future).
I wouldn't lie and say I loved him back, but neither would I say nothing. I would sit down with him and explain to him that it makes me extremely happy that he'd say that, and that I appreciate it a lot. Then I'd tell him about my own feelings. Maybe I just need a little more time to get to that point. I dunno. But I'd make it a point to tell him that just because I don't love him back yet, it doesn't mean I never will or that I don't want to be with him. I would tell him when I get there and until then, I would just be extremely happy to be with him.
It really depends on how long you've been seeing each other. I've had guys say it on the first date at which point I laugh. Vin all honesty when it's a real relationship, I say it first usually. In those cases, one guy praised me saying how wonderful it is to hear and he said "well on my way too!"
The first time my fiance told me he loved me, I did not say it back to him. It took me another 4 months to really feel like I loved him. When I was ready, I was able to say it without hesitation. Saying you love someone without meaning it only hurts the relationship.
What are you crazy? Are you telling me that there is a possibility that somebody out there with L another person that they love them just so they don't hurt their feelings? That is setting yourself up for disaster. Would you go marry him just to not hurt his feelings?
When I first told my boyfriend I loved him Ib did it via note [ coz I'm a pussy] and I told him if he didn't feel the same way Ib rather him tell me the truth than lie especially because I felt the emotions what I thought was too early in our relationship.
I rather be told the truth that he didn't feel the same than be lied to.
Fortunately he had strong feelings for me too. I dontb think he quite said love but close to it