I told my boyfriend I just need him to tell me he likes me every once in a while or that he's glad he met me and he said he didn't know if he could give me that. On his end he says how can you not know that?
granted I woke him up in the middle of the night to discuss this because he did something that upset me as we were going to bed and I couldn't sleep.
He thinks it is unecessary and unreasonable for me to ask him to say it. Can any of you guys relate to this? Is he just trying to avoid saying it because it isn't true?
its not like I'm asking him to tell me he loves me. Anytime I try to tell him how I feel he gets mad and says it shouldn't have to be this hard.
He may not be verbal about this kind of stuff, so for him to say it upon request makes it doubly awkward because you shouldn't have to tell him to say that he likes you. It's possible that he's irritated that you feel that he's not showing enough like/love. So it makes him not irritated at you, but irritated at himself which he might inadvertently take out on you.
Alternatively, does he feel you're too clingy? Needing someone is a sure thing in a relationship, but needing someone all the time can be a bit suffocating. Be aware of his space and your space.
See, if he feels the urge to say it, he will. And he wants you to say it when you have the urge to too. That way, the feeling is genuine and doesn't end up becoming empty words said for the sake of saying just because you're in a relationship.
Ask yourself why you feel insecure/unwanted that you "need" him to say it. I don't know what happened between you, so I can't help you as much, but better not to force anyone to say it. Be positive and share positive energy with him.
If you really feel insecure due to something that happened between you, based on whatever the situation is, give it some time, or, share with him why you feel that way and ask him why he feels that way and what can be worked out. For a relationship, both of you need to be on the same page.