I told him that isn't fair to me because I'm not saying he did anything wrong I'm just letting him know what I am feeling so he isn't left wondering what's wrong. That someone's I just need to get it out there and it will blow over in a couple hours.
Move only told him I was upset about something three times in 5 months and he said I make the relationship too hard. I asked him to please not go to that every time I get up the nerve to voice what I'm feeling because it makes me feel like I can't share anything with him which just makes it worse.
How can a guy honestly expect to be in a relationship and never have any sort of conflict? He told me he tries everything to make me happy which I told him isn't his job and he shouldn't have to feel like that. That I am happy most of the time but when something has really upset me I shouldn't have to be afraid to voice that. It almost feels like emotional blackmail.
What at is your definition of a difficult relationship?
im kind of just thinking his interest in me is minimal so as long as I'm being a good girl we can be together but the second I need a little reassurance or get upset it becomes more trouble than it's worth for him. 😕
women don't work this way if we aren't feeling it we bail. He dragged one girl along in and on again off again 'undefined' relationship for 3 years. I asked him please to not do that to me because it is painful and not fair.
Most Helpful Guy
Some of us are not very good at resolution of problems or for making another feel better. Since we cannot do that, inside it makes us feel like failures. That is why we rather not hear about such problems. It is easier if u zip it and let all calm down in 2-4 days.
I know. Not a good behavioral trait but it is what it is.1
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Most Helpful Girl
Your boyfriend should want you to feel comfortable expressing your concerns/problems with him not making you feel guilty that the relationship isn't all sunshine's and rainbows. There will ALWAYS be problems when it comes to relationships and if he can't comprehend that then he shouldn't be in one.
I would tell him that you both need to feel comfortable talking about problems faced in the relationship and its perfectly normal to have problems. How are you going to prevent these things from happening again if you or him don't know that there was even a problem there in the first place... also that he has no right making you feel in the wrong for having concerns. Tell him that If he wants to make you happy he needs to start being attentive when listening and coming up with solutions with you and or reassuring you if it is something that he is doing that you aren't comfortable with.
If there is still no change I would really consider if this is the kind of relationship you want to be in, you will just feel like he doesn't care about you and will always be second guessing yourself in regards to "do I tell him or not" If he really cares for you he wouldn't want you to feel upset and would want you to talk about it if you were.