My new relationship after 4 months is very comfortable. My last (my first love) was a kind of insanity that I'm not sure I want to repeat - feeling sick when they go away, needing them. This guy I don't need, I just like having him around and I worry it's not enough (we're not in love yet, will it happen?). Then today I read some opinions on soul mates. one said "you pick someone and make it work", another "you just accept and learn to be with someone, you choose to settle". Your thoughts?
Soulmate? Or nothing special?
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I really think that they it quite possible to find your soul mate in many many people. The person you pick to be with you forever and ever is just someone you said you just best friended and care much more about than the rest of the pack. The thing is eveyone is not perfect and its most likely you going to made a huge mistake. I really really really hope that love is real that I can find my best friend someone who gives me mutal love and keeps me excited. The time I spent single and alone has taught me not to want. I don't think I'll ever meet someone and I just now only hope for a friend and nothing more. I kinda get super disappionted because I know I won't get what I want which is the whole attractive and great personality and that kinda hurts. I feel like I am looking for the impossible so I give up. I am encouraging people that if they meet someone they like to take that chance but for me I haven't found it. So many things could go wrong with a soulmate like death or cheating or prision or an addiction... i know i sound negative but ugh... i am all over the place.0
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I think that it's too soon for you to say. I'm inclined to believe that your last relationship was unhealthy because that is the textbook definition of codependency.
Just take it slow with the new guy. It doesn't need to be anything serious right away. Let it go where it will.0
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