The last thing I want to do is lead anyone on or hurt them or anything. Should I tell them though? I mean I am single and it's not like I'm particularly serious with any of them, so is it even necessary? I just don't want them to expect too much :/ how do I tell them?
You don't have to do this unless you think a guy is getting too infatuated with you. Otherwise, if you make a point of saying this constantly, you will sound pretty conceited, and it will sound like you want the guy to make a BID for your time.
You know, a lot of girls DO want guys to bid on them, so guys will think that's your game as well.
Interesting that so many people say you should tell them. I voted you don't need to. Here's what I'm thinking:
If you're just going on a date and doing friendly activities, you could be doing that with ANYONE. There's no expectation of exclusivity of any kind. On that basis, it's weird for them to have an issue with it, and if they do, they should ASK you if you are seeing other guys and if that's a problem for them they should ASK you if you'd like to be exclusive. Personally, I NEVER assume exclusivity until we've had an explicit conversation about it. And I wouldn't bother with that until there's something more sexual going on.
As long as it doesn't become too serious, and it's just meeting each other and having a chat, I think it's okay. Better not to tell him since you may scare him off. It you get into the stadium where personal touch and kissing comes in, you'll have to stick to one guy otherwise it wouldn't be fair. I also wouldn't let this phase last for too long, if you feel really good with one guy it's better to stick with him otherwise it may be a big blow to him if after many dates he finds out he's second choice :-( :-(
You'd probably be better off seeing one person at a time, but you should tell them and be honest with them. If you don't tell em they might think they are the only one, and then when they do find out they'll be more hurt then if you were just upfront with them, it's always good to be upfront with someone so that down the line they don't get hurt.
by the way, good for you. People settle into exclusive relationships far too quickly. You are doing the right thing, dating a bunch of guys before become exclusive with anyone. When you do settle down, you will be making an informed choice.
Yes you should absolutely tell them. When I'm dating a woman I assume I'm the only one so I'd like to hear if I'm not. I don't casually date.. If I date someone it's with the intention of it being something more if we have a connection.
you should at least tell him, but that's fucked. stick to 1 dude at a time. you're basically just using different guys and hoping 1 sticks. that's really not cool. yeah, you can keep your options open, but don't string a guy along thinking he has a chance with you when he has literally no control, especially without their knowing. how would you feel if you tried to impress a dude and he just left because he was secretly dating other women? and also, it just makes you seem like you're fine with basically cheating on guys as well. that's how trust issues develop.
Yea if you fill the guy that your dating in that your meeting with other guys he'll probably do a lot less for you such as taking you out and stuff but its better that he knows so that he doesn't feel like he was being used as temporary stepping stone till you found what you were looking for.