so we met online and had our first coffee date last week. it went really well we talked for hours and ended up going to a grocery store for like 30 minutes. anyways, conversation was great, he was a perfect gentleman, and he was handsome. he hugged me goodbye and then an hour later asked me out for a second date. we went to an escape room and for food afterwards. once again he was easy to talk to and all, but he made no effort to touch me or flirt with me or kiss me. so now im confused because im not sure if i see any potential here. he is a great guy and is unbelievably considerate and polite and everything amazing, but i dont know if we have chemistry. he just asked me out for a third date and were going rock climbing so im going to give him another chance, but if he doesn't try to at least be somewhat physical with me, then im going to have to move on. am i wrong?
Yes. you are wrong. He is being what's called "a gentleman." I know this is a weird term that few have heard of, but, although on the endangered species list, "gentlemen" can be found. They tend to be less "grabby" that other species and believe in treating females as "ladies" another endangered species.
I think maybe he's just trying to establish what kind of person you are? Y'know, getting to know your personality, that kind of thing. That's quite sweet. Hold onto him until you're sure you want two different things.
Maybe his just the kind of guy who likes to take his time. He probably had a prior relantionship that led nowhere cause he went too fast or tried to rush into something serious. He might be insecure aswell , or dosen't have confidence in himself or his self esteem is not up to par. Anywhoo try to pull some of his strings to let him know that your kind of wondering or you'll see in your next date how he might try to pull a move.. Or i hope he will! That's my opinion..
He seems like he doesn't want to ruin things and trying too hard to be a gentleman. I would start to touch him and flirt with him and let him know its ok to come out of his shell a bit and escalate things a bit faster. Guys sometimes make the mistake o doing this bc they really like the girl and dont want to come off as playerish or 'he just eants u for sex'. Start talking that way with him and sexual innuendos and things and then he will feel more comfortable to show that side of him.