I'm 19 going on 20 and I have a huge crush on a barely 16 year old girl at my Church. We're Orthodox. I'm a college freshman and she's in high-school.
Should I ask her out on a date or is the age difference too great? It's not like I would have sex with her or anything--I'm too traditional for that--and I've known her family for about 4 years despite hardly ever talking to her due to shyness.
I like her because not only is she ridiculously cute, but she's surprisingly very mature, nice, and also a big sister just as I'm a big brother. We have that firstborn similarity. She makes me happy inside.
Should I purchase her a gift for the holidays like fancy chocolate? Would it be wrong if I asked her out? Should I ask her parents first or would that make things awkward? Is it normal to be attracted to her? After all, age gaps were very common less than 100 years ago.
You may want to wait until she's 18 to date her just in case. Not saying you can't be affectionate with her and casually date or something, but some people may look down on you having a relationship with her.
I don't see anything wrong with it, your intentions are in the right place. Asking her parents would be the way to go, seeing as you've known her family for 4 years. I'm sure that they would seeing as you go to church and have values they approve of
A sixteen year old is just a baby. Let her grow a few more years. You might not think it makes a difference, but it does. As someone who's been burned bad because I had an - almost 19 year old boyfriend when I was 15, I'm asking you to be the responsible adult and let her grow up first. That way, it will be easier for both of you.
Just because age gaps were very common a 100 years ago (and still are in some parts of the world) doesn't mean it should be that way.
If not just be that older guy friend but talk to women your own age. It will look creepy if you are prioritizing a high schooler.
If not to her it will to her friends and family. Girls are attracted to people who have lives and, yes, guys other girls find interesting/attractive.
No, there is nothing morally wrong with this situation but you are making her out to be a little too special when regardless of her good qualities she is still 16. Which by definition makes her more boring than a women.
its not normal nowadays, I find age difference is weird the younger you are... its not as weird if a 20 year old and a 24 year old were going out as to a 16 and 20 year old.. maybe talk with there parents first? or even wait?