I am in a relationship. However before my relationship, and even some times recently I had men interested in me. I am the type of woman who knows what she likes. I like nerdy, and geeky men. Someone to play video games with, and watch Star Wars with. Intelligence is a big turn on. I have had men say they can change that. Some guys will get all butt hurt if I am not interested. I have been called fridged for not sending nude pictures to a guy. I have been dumped in the past for not wanting sex until I feel a connection. I even had one guy who would not stop texting me. The worst one was a guy who said I am into Fags. Yes he said that I like homos. I got so pissed off because I have gay family members. I have been rejected in the past and I do not get pissed off.
These don't at all sound representative of men in general. However, pretty much all guys will have some sort of reaction to being rejected (haven't you ever been rejected?), especially if they don't really understand why or DID have some kind of connection with you. When I had less experience, I'd accidentally take it out on the girl and I've realized now that this was a pretty terrible approach and have since changed.
I don't know... some guys act negatively because they honestly think they're perfect. Some react negatively because they're just a bit sad/annoyed about being rejected. And others try to figure out what they did wrong because they genuinely want to improve and this can be interpreted as 'needy' or 'insecure' depending on how they do it. In general, it's a normal reaction, the guys you are describing don't sound very normal though...
Lol I know some of my friends who have done that. Alright well to sum it up, they're like that because you hurt their ego or their pride. Maybe even embarrassed them. If they're all manly or think they're all that, being rejected must've stung. Haha especially if they think it was because you're into geeky guys :)
These questions infuriate me, if you reject a guy you get exactly what you deserve and I have sympathy because you have it coming. You girls get soooo much enjoyment out of rejecting guys it's like you live for the chance to do it and care what that's like for the guy which just is seriously fucked up itself enough. So those guys you described had every right to react the way they did. Hell the fags thing is something I would've said so good for them.