Yes, it still does because you still have to be compatible, which for a lot of women means having a mutual attraction and being at a particular stage in life. For me personally I don't date men that are more than 4-6 years older than me because I prefer to date men closer to my age range.
I have dated many confident but not good looking guys, the confidence by itself wasn't enough to make me interested- we needed to have lots in common, too. I'd rather date a not so looking guy who I had loads in common with AND was confident, than a guy who was nice to look at but I had sweet FA in common with.
if I had a hierarchy of preferences it would go:
1) Good looking + confident + we have lots in common (this is very rare, and usually the guy is likely to have some red flag that detracts from him being ideal -- like being a womaniser) 2) Not especially good looking but confident and we have lots in common. 3) Good looking and confident but we have zero in common 4) Lots in common, not especially good looking, little confidence 5) Good looking but not confident, zero in common (can't really think of how many guys like this exist, but a few must)
80% of the guys I have been involved with fall under number 2, but maybe other women are different.
As far as age is concerned, I have never been with anyone younger. I have dated up to 14 years older and probably wouldn't go more than 20 years older.
I came across a very confident guy and a not as confident guy recently. Confident one was average in looks and not confident was very gorgeous, but modest. I went for the modest one. So what I am trying to say is, looks, age and confidence mattered less, modesty mattered more.
I would never date some younger than me but I have dated with an age gap as big as 26 years. So older guys do sometimes do it for me.
Yes. If he is 10 years older than me, then that is too much. Maybe 4 years older, or two/three years younger. Thats it. With looks, yeah I have to find him physically attractive and more than just confidence. I have to feel a close connection and affection of wanting to be by him all the time.
Confidence, knowledge and mental maturity (which are truly rare amongst guys my age). If a guy has these qualities, looks and age wouldn't matter that much to me. But still I would never consider dating anyone under 18.
Of course. Even if confidence is a good thing, it can only take you so far. If I'm not physically attracted to you, then I'll appreciate the confidence but we will never be more than just friends. And if he's too old or too young for me, then his looks and confidence wouldn't matter, since I wouldn't be able to overcome the age difference.
Yes. I'd say my age limit up is 5 years just based on where I am in life right now. I'm a young adult figuring things out, and he shouldn't be much (though a little is okay) more experienced than I am. 23 would mean we'd both be in college (or he's just graduated) and on similar planes of maturity (since girls mature faster).
Younger would not be ok right now, but that's just because I'm 18. The whole legality and child vs adult thing. Once I'm older, really 2 years max. Because women mature faster.
But the age gap narrows as you get older. 14 and 18 is huge, whereas 30 and 36 isn't even though it's an additional two years.
As for looks, I've fallen for guys that were average at best, but that's because compatibility everywhere else was spot on. He can't be hideous, but to me looks aren't everything. I'm shallow enough that I'll notice looks right away, but I also get over it if it's not that bad and I am emotionally attracted to him.