I'm starting to get a crush on a classmate. I've shared a class with her for two years now. Friends have pointed out that she's attractive and now I'm starting to see her differently. The only thing holding me back is that I'm overweight. She's not, and I'm not sure if I should go for or just date others after I lose more weight. My self esteem is pretty low and I feel I'm not good enough for her.
When it comes to real heart on heart relationships that stuff doesn't matter. If you want her go for her, every minute you spend sitting on the bench some other guy is stepping up to the plate. Good luck man
I say work on your confidence first. Entering a relationship while this insecure wouldn't be a good idea, it would probably get to you really fast. You would probably start to suspect that she's cheating on you, you would wonder what she sees in you and you would live in constant fear of her leaving because you're "not good enough". Your insecurities would most likely set the tone for the relationship pretty quickly, which is a disaster right off the bat. If you want a healthy relationship, then you need to enter it with a healthy mindset.
okay so I'm gonna be honest here. If a lot of people find her attractive there's a good chance for her to be "out of your league". And pretty girls tend to be mean and judgy. if your self esteem is already low I don't recommend you asking her out. there's a great chance she'll reject you and tell her friends -that's just how girls work. Instead maybe try to notice girls who aren't particularly pretty but will appreciate you how you are.