My girlfriend in particular has guy friends she thinks its okay to hang out with a bunch of guys when she's my girlfriend when someone ha a girlfriend or boyfriend opposite sex friendships should be kept casual not going out with them andhanging around them.
Peoguy dont talk to girls to be friends if a guy is talking to my girlfriend chances are he's probably thinking off ucking her so whats the deal? Its not that hard to figure out. Or should I dum my girl? I dont trust any girl enough to have her have guys around her house often
I'd like to inform I just dumped her, thank you for all the opinions and I feel soo much better now she can be with some other stupid guy who believes her "just friends" bullshit
Wow. I have male friends, some married, some in committed relationships, some single. I would expect to hang out with them on occasion; to me, that is casual. I'm not dating them or getting intimate with them; I trust that have good sense and self-control not to try anything.
Sometimes, I will meet with one of them on a one-on-one basis, but it's usually in a professional capacity or to ask their opinion on something from a guy's perspective (usually, it's to evaluate my S. O.'s behavior). It's not to sleep with any of them. Even if they did have the idea that they wanted to get with me, I would think they would have the common sense and decency not to act on it. It can be done. Not everyone has the hots for anything walking.
It just sounds like you were looking for any reason to dump her, and you used the guy friends as an excuse to do so. Based on the logic you provided in your comments and responses, the same would seemingly apply to her having any kind of interpersonal interaction with male co-workers. Is she not allowed to have a job because guys work there and might try to bang her?
Perhaps your beliefs would go fittingly in a culture that oppresses women and stones them for similar "offenses." For now, though, I would definitely try to work on that insecurity (let's call it what it is) before getting into another relationship, because that kind of toxic thinking will continue to yield the same result, regardless of who you're with.
Lol I hope you're not serious. Your opinion implies two things:
1. Men only care about girls for potential sex, and therefore are incapable of enjoying a friendship with them.
2. Girls will only stay faithful if all other penises stay far away from her.
And both of those are ridiculous.
Now, consider this. One, you don't get to control who your girlfriend hangs out with. You're not her babysitter. Two, these guys are her friends and they're important to her. It's stupid for her to cut ties with them just because she's in a relationship.
People have friends of the opposite sex because they have FRIENDS. And sometimes those friends will turn out to be of a sex or gender they could be attracted to 'cos, hey, ain't no hormones or chromosomes gonna stop people from liking shit and bonding with others over liking the same shit.
Either you learn to trust and respect your partner (and the opposite sex in general), or... it just doesn't work. Sorry, bro. But controlling your partner's social interactions in daily life just ain't gonna fly.
There is a difference between having male friends with good conversations/casual activities and someone you're spending the night with. There could very well be nothing happening when someone does indeed stay over at a house, but it isn't very sensitive to relationships (with significant others). And that is what needs to be considered here.
I, in general, have more guy friends than female friends. I enjoy my time with them; our interests have thus far been more aligned than with anyone else. If someone I was dating did not trust me and respect these important friendships, then the bigger issue is that he *doesn't trust me*, and THAT is a problem. I don't want trust issues anywhere in a relationship -- on either side. It does not bode well.
The key is to be aware of your partners feelings, to discuss things, to include them, and to believe in one another. Avoiding these friends "crashing" on your couch is one way to be conscious and thoughtful. But completely erasing any possible contact? That is not reasonable.
I have to say I agree here. I learnt only recently that majority of guys just want sex. Can you believe I have only one guy friend after all these years, that's because they all left because they realized they won't get any. Don't mean to boast (but I am too proud) but when my boyfriend doesn't appreciate me doing something, I stop out of my own choice and respect for him. People aren't like that anymore.
Well, maybe because around half the population of the world is male and we no longer live in a society where women are sequestered from the male view. Women can have male friends. You're just insecure and paranoid because you don't love yourself or think you have enough to offer someone in a relationship.
I have a best friend who I have known since middle school. Very weird funny guy. I am not gonna stop hanging out with him. Also I am not completely streight so am I not suppose to have female friends to? That does not make sense. My roommate is like a father figure. If not for him I would be homeless, or living with my abusive parents. My boyfriend knows that I am his and only his. I am loyal to him. He is not insecure about me having guy friends. When I go out with my guy friends I always pay for myself. I have had a few guy friends hit on me or try to make moves and they are no longer friends of mine.
It's the 21st century, most girls have guy friends. The problem is not her having guy friends, its you not trusting her. Either she is giving you reason not to trust her, or else you have trust issues.
Because we like having friends, and just so happen to get on with guys, as well as girls? I have a lot of male friends, because I'm into a lot of the same things of them, like comics, gaming, sci fi, etc. Most girls aren't into the same stuff as me, so if I limited my friends to my gender, I wouldn't have many mates.
I agree with you guys don't talk to girls just to be friends. Never it happened to me, yes they did say Oh just friends, just friends, but never kept their promises. It seems a guy and a girl can't friends, i don't generalize speaking only from my own experience. And i heard this saying somewhere
girls like to be friends with guys because they like there company number 1 and number 2 girls like being friends with guys because guys don't cause drama I online I have a few guy friends who I'm friends with but as for your question it sounds like your girlfriend should have said to her guy friend that she's in a relationship with u
I hang out with a lot of guys but they are my best friends 4 ever necause I've known them since 1-10 you shouldn't dump her girls hanging out with guys a lot but if you do dump her than they might go for her
dude... you sound f*cking crazy... with severe trust issues... I think you did her a favor
Because we value them as human beings and appreciate their company despite not necessarily wanting to pursue anything further with them? I'm not going to keep someone who could be my best friend at a distance; friends are precious, regardless of their genitals.
Anyway, it sounds like you made the right choice in dumping your girlfriend, given your issues with it. I might disagree on the friend issue, but the important thing is that you're happy with your relationship, and if this is a big problem for you and she's not willing to budge, then breaking up is the healthiest thing for both of you.
Relationship is all about respecting each other. If her friendship makes you feel unsure or insecure then you should talk to her about it. Instead of arguing or making a big deal out of it, try explaining yourself to her.
If she really cares, she might not ditch her friends or something, but she would try her best to make you feel secure and/or try to do something about the situation.
But before that give your situation some thought. Is your girlfriend a tomboy? Or is there any reason in particular that she is comfortable in being friends with guys.
And may be... Try to be the friend she needs, instead of wearing the boyfriend tag. Hope that helps.
Thing is you either trust her, or you dont. Both is fine, but you can't dictate who she is friends with. All you can do is let her know you don't like it, which im sure you have done. If you can trust her, then you should find someone you do, or examine why it makes you nervous. On a side note, would you be ok with it if the guys were married?
by the way, i totally get where you're coming from. Its easy for people to preach, but it can feel like you're leaving you're calf in the care of wolves. Trusting someone always leaves you wide open for a sucker punch
Less drama probably. My girlfriend is more of a "Tomboy" and naturally has always had much more guy friends. I think its good if she has friends really, want her to have friends. Although sadly somewhat, it seems she lost almost all her friends since met me, but maybe cause choose to spend time with me rather. But in either case, is nothing wrong with having male friends of course. I always had more female friends also.
I wonder what she would say if you said you 2 were moving to another state or country for that matter. Could she leave her friends and only be with you? I mean you should be the only friend she needs, to be honest.
Fuck her man as hard as you can so that She will forget anyone else.
Lets cut the sht. bro, I wouldn't want that either. Everyone is fcking insecure in one way or another. can't they just deal with it? But If she allows you to have girl... friends... then whatever... not worth to stress with. Just hang out and worse case scenario she cheats on you even abit... even talking flirt etc emotional crap... then... i suggest you pick another cuter girl.