I'm currently talking to a 26 year old and he smokes weed everyday. I feel that at his age it's a bit immature to get high every evening. I wouldn't mind if it was a once in a blue moon type of thing but it's literally everyday. I've never had a conversation with him when he wasn't high and it's getting kind of annoying. Would you date someone that smokes weed? How can I tell him that it bothers me without sounding like a controlling bitch?
Most Helpful Guy
I would date someone who smokes weed, because I would like to smoke more.
But even so, I think you are completely justified. Dude needs to get a grip, if they still use that phrase. Can't he see he has a beautiful girl to 'tend to'? Can't 'make ends meet' when you're baked all the time. Tends to lessen the impact...
It's tricky, though. Habits tend to cause people to refuse any suggestion that they are habits. So, if you try to tell him anything, his likely first response will be that 'he doesn't smoke that often'. Then how can you say "well, I want you to smoke less seldom" without sounding like a controlling bitch? Or sound like a liar by trying to tell them it actually is fairly often. You can't. It's lose-lose. The only thing I think you might have a shot at is appealing to his sense of balance. Try getting him to do other things - go hiking, zoo climbing, whatever. Distract him. I'd imagine it's actually fairly easy for you to do so, often, but I mean do things with him that get him out of the house. At least then, you'll know if he's genuinely interested in you. Because if he's not then he won't want to do those things. And if he does them he'll smoke less pot. Win-win.1
Most Helpful Girl
im an occasional smoker and i honestly cannot imagine smoking every day, it would get old.
if i were you i would just ask him why he smokes so much and if he ever gets tired or bored of it? that would kind of get a subtle point across about him smoking as often as he does.
maybe he has nothing better to do, I don't know2