I'm currently talking to a 26 year old and he smokes weed everyday. I feel that at his age it's a bit immature to get high every evening. I wouldn't mind if it was a once in a blue moon type of thing but it's literally everyday. I've never had a conversation with him when he wasn't high and it's getting kind of annoying. Would you date someone that smokes weed? How can I tell him that it bothers me without sounding like a controlling bitch?
I would date someone who smokes weed, because I would like to smoke more.
But even so, I think you are completely justified. Dude needs to get a grip, if they still use that phrase. Can't he see he has a beautiful girl to 'tend to'? Can't 'make ends meet' when you're baked all the time. Tends to lessen the impact...
It's tricky, though. Habits tend to cause people to refuse any suggestion that they are habits. So, if you try to tell him anything, his likely first response will be that 'he doesn't smoke that often'. Then how can you say "well, I want you to smoke less seldom" without sounding like a controlling bitch? Or sound like a liar by trying to tell them it actually is fairly often. You can't. It's lose-lose. The only thing I think you might have a shot at is appealing to his sense of balance. Try getting him to do other things - go hiking, zoo climbing, whatever. Distract him. I'd imagine it's actually fairly easy for you to do so, often, but I mean do things with him that get him out of the house. At least then, you'll know if he's genuinely interested in you. Because if he's not then he won't want to do those things. And if he does them he'll smoke less pot. Win-win.
im an occasional smoker and i honestly cannot imagine smoking every day, it would get old. if i were you i would just ask him why he smokes so much and if he ever gets tired or bored of it? that would kind of get a subtle point across about him smoking as often as he does. maybe he has nothing better to do, I don't know
Personally no. I wouldn't, but that's just because I don't smoke it. I have no issue with people who choose to smoke. I've dated a guy in the past who smoked it every day. He wasn't clean about it either, so it was all over the place. I just don't think I could date someone again who smoked. Maybe once in a while. But not everyday.
Lol. I know plenty of guys older than that who smoke every day. You might as well get used to it if you are seriously considering him as a boyfriend because people who smoke all the time (like myself) aren't likely to give it up for a S. O. It's usually best that pot heads date other pot heads. I have been there done that and it just doesn't work out.
I'm not a fan of weed. So, to me that's something to consider. But the thing is... Sometimes it's just a fase, maybe the guy is about 20-23 and he is having fun on the weekends, so for me that's fine. Or maybe, the guy is young but he smokes every single day, so like, does he think for himself at all? Or even when the guy is older (maybe about 30?) and he smokes a lot, then you start thinking "will he ever grow up and stop caring so much about this?" But you know, it's all about perspective... Would you date a guy that drinks a lot and everytime you guys go out?
Well since I have no heart , if he texts me saying "your coming over today" I'd be like "i don't think so bc once I come over I see you high every time , I don't want to sound like a bitch but unless you stop doing it everyday and do it once a week then I would be more happy to see you and spend time together I will show you how good it is to be with me and not be high I love you🙂"