It's only a very recent thing with this new guy but it's promising so far. I still find myself feeling sad about the other guy sometimes though, wondering what could have been... I knew him for months and was emotionally invested in him for that long so I guess it's normal. He ended things with me about 4 weeks ago so the pain is still there. Will this go away as I see the new guy more?
I only think of the old guy from time to time, more how he hurt me tbh. I've literally only started dating this new guy lol, so I should get over it as me and him get closer
My wife was married to a man for five years before me. He died. We have been together for over a decade now, married for over six years. She still thinks about him sometimes. I still think about all of my exes now and again. There is always the thought of what might have been. Hell, I still think about the crushes I have had throughout my life and wonder what might have been. Is it unhealthy? Only if you let it negatively affect your current relationship. Will it go away? Not completely, but it may fade with time. My advice, give yourself more time to heal before going into your next relationship. You are young yet and have plenty of time to find the right relationship for you. Going into new relationships too soon is not healthy.
You'll probably stop feeling interest in the old guy in time, unless you feel he's special. I like to have enough time to get over the person for awhile before dating. If you just miss the old guys company but you're getting company from the new guy, maybe not.
You have to try an focus your love on the new guy. But of course it's no problem that it still hurts. We're human so we attach to people. And since you've known him for months and loved him, it's quite normal that it takes time :D Just try not to let your new guy be the victim of it... like "not being ready" to give love :o