You don't need to be married for him to help with the baby. You shouldn't get married if you don't love him, because it won't last and a divorce is just one more complication that you don't need. . . but if you love him, getting married would be nice,
If he suggested that y'all get married say yes. He is your baby's father and deserves to be present in your baby's life. Now the thing is i you do marry him and then later get a divorce it would be better for you to not have married him in the first place. If he tries to do what's right by you then he will do the same with the baby. Talk to friends, family, and older people that know both of you and that you trust a lot. i hope this works out well for you and that he turns out to be a good father. Just remember the most important thing at first is to take care of the baby. Please, please, please do not have an abortion!!
If you marry, the military provides extra money for the spouse's support, and they provide medical. If you marry (for love) there will be help from the military.
If you do not marry, and he backs away from supporting you, you can go to the military and they are most likely to force him to support you, even taking part of his pay before he gets it and sending it to you.
The decision on what to do is yours, just giving you some facts to work with.
it depends if you are ready to get married. the most important thing is to support the child and raise it well. you will have no choice to live the adult life at a young age but say to yourself that its worth having a child and especially when you are young because you will see him grow up for a long time. i believe life is about having children so you made the right choice. don't think about love because the child is more important. work 2 jobs to support the child and once your child starts school go back to school to get a better education. so many young teens do that they go back to school later on when the child starts school. just remember that partying and having fun with friends will not be the same anymore but its worth raising a child.
you should probably let him know... also, that's pretty weird that a 22 year old would have sex with a 17 year old. besides statutory rape and a huge age gap... anyways, if he denies it, you can always go this route :D
Don't marry him just because. He is the father and legally has a responsibility to help you with that child, married or not. Aw babies, how nice. Just think, you'll be a grandma at 37. Not many people can say that!
Is this a serious question? You don't have to marry him so he can help with the baby... he either will or he won't. Depends on the type of person he is. By law he's required to help at least monetarily though
You shouldn't have had sex without protection. You are too young. Also apparently an idiot since you didn't take an after pill. You are not making the choice that I would, were I ever in your position. Get rid of the baby or give it up to adoption.
I hope that he will help you support this child regardless of whether or not you marry him. It is also his child. He is legally obligated to at the very least provide monetary support as the father. He has some income as a marine.
When it comes to marrying him, I think that decision should be based on the happiness of you and of your boyfriend. He can still be a father without being married to you.
Friends of mine who had unhappily married parents, who had married through a sense of obligation, felt the negative effects of that. They were happier seeing their parents separately happy later than they had been seeing them unhappy together.
I hope you and your boyfriend are able to talk about this and make a decision that you both feel is best for the three of you.
If you're marrying for anything other than love then you shouldn't be getting married. There's nothing stopping him from being an active parent and helping to raise the child while being your boyfriend. Marriage is much more than a piece of paper, if this is the only reason you'd marry him it's almost certain to fail. Just focus on being parents. Don't marry a person you have no intention of spending all of your life with.
No. You shouldn't be marrying him just because of the baby. So many people marry for the wrong reasons. Don't be one of those people. Marry for the right reasons. If you love him and he loves you then yes but if it's because of the baby then it isn't worth it. It will just hurt you and him in the future.
Oh so you want to trap him with marriage because you're afraid that he'll leave otherwise? Two wrongs don't make a right, marriage won't magically solve everything and I'm 95% sure you'll be getting a divorce in a few years if you do end up marrying each other, given the fragile circumstances.
He has to agree with marriage first? If he doesn't want to help out financially, he's not ready and nor should you think a marriage will fix everything. He might feel pressured and break up with you eventually. The most important thing is that he will be there for the baby.
Well what I think you need to do is sit down and talk with him and tell him what is going on and how you feel. Work things out and decide how you guys are going to proceed. Maybe wait to make a big commitment like marriage if the topic becomes a big deal.
Don't marry him just so he can help with the baby. He should already be helping with the baby even if you aren't married. You probably should've thought about all of this before you go pregnant. If I was living by myself working two jobs I would be exxxttrraaa careful not to get pregnant because 1.) That's tiring. and 2.) can't afford it. but don't marry him just because of the baby. That's not cool and that marriage is destined to fail.
You dont need to get married, dont feel forced to do so. I think is better to not rush, you dont need to do it now, see how everything goes, marriage is a serious thing and u need to think about it carefully with your partner.
Please do not think that having a baby will make a man want to marry you. Tell your boyfriend you are pregnant.
Don't marry for the sake of a baby. Tell your boyfriend and make a plan.
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