I have been with him for 5 years and during every single holiday or birthday or anniversary I end up getting him a lot of gifts. He will claim he doesn't want me to, but then will turn around in that same sentence and tell me what he wants, knowing that I will get it for him. He has bought me roses once for one of my birthdays and lotions one year for Christmas (that I ended up rubbing his back with, so I think he bought it for him because he refuses to rub my back with lotions) and that was it.
I don't want to assume this is a "guy thing" because I have known many men who wanted to buy me gifts or their girlfriends gifts but my boyfriend just doesn't want to? I don't know why it bothers me because I am far from materialistic. I would be just as happy with a hand written letter and a cheap dinner that he made for us. But it's really starting to bother me because its always take and no give with him. Am I not worthy of gifts? Or is my boyfriend just a cheap man? Like its really starting to get to me because I kind of feel like he doesn't care?
My reasoning behind saying he doesn't care is because we had split up for 6 months and during that time we had both started seeing other people. He literally showered this new woman with gifts almost daily. He was constantly buying things for her. Granted he left her after a month of seeing her because he said that she was too materialistic and we started seeing each other again 4 months later. But he showered her with gifts and has never put in any effort to get me gifts?
Most Helpful Guy
lol, what a bastard.
I'm not sure what else to say.1
Most Helpful Girl
If you aren't getting your needs met (sounds like it's been that way since you've been together) then you can't wait around trying to force him to change his behaviour, or hope he changes, you have to determine if you accept that relationship as it is, or if it isn't fulfilling for you. Make you own decisions, don't blame him for you dissatisfaction with his behaviour, you don't have to put up with it.1