I went on a date with a man from OKcupid (26, I am 23). We had great conversations beforehand, I shared much about myself and my dedication to my education, etc. We went on a great first date, the chemistry was strong but I managed to hold off on getting physical. The next date we ended up hooking up, and again on a third after that. And then he texts me that he has full custody of two little girls (5 and 7) that he neglected to tell me about sooner. I was livid and accused him of withholding information, to which he replied that in order to protect his kids, he had to get to know me better first before mentioning them. I never even thought to ask if he had kids-- I assumed that was the kind of information one would put forward on a first date (or before) as that is HUGE. It was definitely a deal breaker. Was he being a POS and withholding info? Or did he have a point to protecting his kids?
Most Helpful Guy
He was not protecting his kid by not telling you. He protects his kids by not introducing them to you, So it was purely for other reasons. Basically to get yo in bed before you found out. You should dump him, although that may have been his plan anyway. Get you in bed then tell you something to get you out of his life.0
Most Helpful Girl
Well it all depends. Could be either honestly but I don't think most guys would do that to someone, how does that help them in anyway by not telling you they have kids? Maybe he's just an overprotective father and he may have some reason behind that that he's never mentioned before? I don't think you should stop talking to him just because he has kids, that's sad. He's probably sturggling to find a good mom for them I bet he's a great guy and father just looking out for his kids. I'd give him another chance especially if you had a connection. You may find to live his kids and maybe even have one of your own0