About 2 years ago I was Introduced to a guy by my best friend and we kind of hit it off immediately as in that night. We both really had way too much to drink that night, and kind of woke up naked next to each other naked the next morning, cuddling and all.
This is where it all went downhill. I don't really party, so I couln't recall his name, which I eventually asked, a total of 3 times. (I know) Please don't judge me, I know it sounds bad, but we were still heavily intoxicated at the time. So then we laugh it off, he tells me, (for the 3rd time) and eventually I top this whole thing off with a 'I am not going to date you comment'. (Just came out of a serious relationship about 3 months prior to thisso this was the actual reason behind the comment)
Now, the problem is that we are still awkward and he is playing this game where he is testing me all the time. One Moment he will be the sweetest guy in the world, and the next (for really no reason) he flips a complete 180 and pokes at nasty. One moment he will flirt with me, sit next to me pressing his shoulders against mine, be my friend and joke around until I say something he doesn't like or mention some guy he doesn't know, or even offend him. He takes certain things so extremely personal, yet we have no relationship & no reason to take what I say so personally. Is this beacuse I offended him by not remembering his name?
I find him staring at me and when I look back at him, he wil look away. Or tell a joke only to wait to see what my reaction will be, or become jealous when other guys speak to me too much. So these all indicate liking me, right? Or What do you think? Why this game? Is he testing me because he doesn't trust me or is he testing me to see if we would actually make a good match? We never see each other, we don't chat, we don't date, we have no contact, yet this is the constant game we play when we do see each other. Please help me understand his behaviour?
Most Helpful Guy
It sounds like his still not sure if he's able to fully pursue you? You did put up walls so he's probably trying to stop himself from full on pursuing you.
"I am not going to date you comment"
- if i heard this, i'd probably just have fun with you but i wouldn't over step boundaries unless you okay it (through direct communication). Or i would simply friend zone it.
- think about it, if you dated a guy.. had sex and seemingly good chemistry and the guy says "i am not going to date you," how active would you consider pursuing this guy?
"Is this because I offended him by not remembering his name?"
- After a drunken hump night, he's not going to take this personally.. esp more than 5 minutes after the fact.0
Most Helpful Girl
He probably enjoyed the sex and would like more, but doesn't want a serious relationship.
And when he flips a 180 and becomes nasty, is that what you'd want a relationship with anyway?0