Several months ago, I was feeling very desperate as I've been chronically single for my whole life, not even a first date ever, so I splurged and bought David DeAngelo's e-book "Double Your Dating." I also receive his CDs for about $20 a month with "dating advice," and his emails on how to succeed with women.
I don't like most of the advice. It's telling me to be somebody other than myself, which contradicts what most women say. In fact, some of the advice made me feel worse about myself than I already did.
I admit that I'm probably a really shallow person and I turn down girls that I don't find physically attractive and only go for really "hot" girls that almost always already have boyfriends. That's why I decided to buy his stuff, because it tells you how to get hot women, and even how to "steal" girlfriends.
Basically, the stuff tells you that things like chivalry is dead, don't be a romantic, those days are over, don't be a "wuss," and don't act like a girl, which apparently, I'm acting like one, and it's not attractive.
It's really frustrating because most of the advice is telling me to buy things I cannot afford (I am a college student, after all) like brand-name jeans, fancy colognes, hundred-dollar shirts, more books and more DVDs about how to behave and think and stuff.
I want a loving, intimate relationship with a beautiful girl, not to become a hookup artist and sleep with everyone and become a man slut like these materials are promising me.
The book and CDs are telling me to do stuff that if I tried, might get me arrested and labeled as a sex offender.
I'm thinking about canceling this stuff (it's burning a hole in my wallet and I'm not really getting anywhere) but by doing this, I'm supposedly doomed to settle for less and wind up unhappily married to a girl with looks and a personality that would make a clock run backwards.
In the meantime, my friends continue to date and make love and have happy relationships.
So, I guess what I'm asking is:
Is this ultra-commercialized dating advice a waste of money (considering I've spend $100's on it over the past several months)?
What do you think of this kind of dating advice?
Do beautiful women really only go for cocky men?
Am I really doomed to settle for less than I deserve?
If I'm being myself, why am I always rejected? (which means I don't know "the game.")
I'm just frustrated and need some thoughts on all of this. I'm much more interested in female opinions.
There's been some misunderstanding here. I've turned down a few girls because I wasn't really attracted to them. I feel that I deserve someone who looks decent (average/cute) and has a good personality. I really like cute girls.
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DeAngelo and those guy deliver on what they promise.
They don't offer love, they don't offer the chance at finding a wife.
They offer boat loads of insecure women who are indecisive and confused.
If that's your path, so be it, have fun.
If it's not, you shouldn't be following the advice.
In your case being you is what's going to work. As far as your friends go, they aren't "making love."
At least, I highly doubt it unless they are all married. And even then, that doesn't qualify.
Finding love is extremely difficult. It's one of the rarest events in any person's life.
Some people do not find it in their lifetime, and still even others do not find love with the type of person they truly need to experience it with.
To find a person that truly compliments you, and to then find love with that person is such a rare occurence, that I'd almost suggest buying lottery tickets for the rest of your life instead.
But if you want love, the only way you're going to find it is by being you, and being discerning about who you expose your feelings to.
As far as any other advice, have fun!1