Don't hint. That doesn't really work on a lot of guys. They are dense. Some of them (like me) would be dense enough to have my own event horizon - dense enough to alter time and bent light. In fact, I sometimes pretend to be dense and stupid enough and every hint (or insults) would just fail so I can have more time to deal (or not deal) with it.
Look at him and just ask him straight. If he asks for time then tell him to be a man and be decisive but then back out and give him some time (no more than 1 week).
Don't play the jealous card, that will do more harm than good unless you really had him on the hook. Men do get possessive but you don't want to force him to show it. It lowers his view of you.
Issuing ultimatums isn't the oath to a healthy relationship and is a turn off for most people. Just tell him how you are feeling and at this point you don't want to see other people and asks what he thinks. If he's into you he will most likely agree or if he isn't really feeling it he'll give you a noncommittal type of answer. At which point it may be time for you to take a step back, evaluate the relationship and if it is working for you anymore, if you are getting out of it what you need. If not its time to move on to someone else who is looking for the same thing you are and able to give it to you.
I've dated men that simply just were not capable of a loving relationship with anyone even though they wanted it and tried to fulfill that. One of them dragged an ex along for 3 years never fully emotionally commuting to the relationship or falling in love. Trust me not a good scenario women wind up giving it their everything to get nothing back in return leaving them bitter when they finally end it.
Yes... to force him to make a move... use a guy to your advantage... so that he thinks ur in demand... and he should pay attention to u and also to feel jealous... this is the best trick... but dont go overboard... just let him know that ur declining all these guys because of him...
Id probably avoid talking about other guys if you're actually interested in him, cause that could make him just end it with you since he might think you're the kind of girl who just runs off to other guys when something is wrong. Just be straight with him and tell him that you wanna know if you two are actually a thing or are you just wasting your time with him.
If you don't like him enough to not be looking at other dudes I don't see the point, I wouldn't want to get with someone who was thinking about messing around with other people because the exclusive label isn't timely enough for her.
Why don't you make it official or ask? You're both adults, it doesn't have to be his job to do it. You want it then say something.
I feel like I've seen a similar post quite recently. But, no matter.
You should talk to him. Try to be gentle but firm about your needs.
Treating him poorly by playing him against another guy is cruel. He has feelings too.
Dropping hints is passive aggressive and spiteful. He will probably be hurt and offended by these behaviors.
If he doesn't want an official relationship, then he's probably not right for you right now anyway. Move on and find someone else but end it with him first.
If this is how you treat him, then I hope he finds someone better than you. You're not a nice person if you think playing games with his feelings is an acceptable way of getting what you want. You seem like a selfish brat and very unpleasant.