No, its not wrong. I think its reasonable, even. I want the same thing. Its fine to acknowledge that other people outside of your relationship are attractive, but it shouldn't develop any further than that. You don't look, you don't stare, you don't comment. You keep it to your damn self and everybody's happy. I mean come on, its not that fucking hard.
Honestly, it's beautiful in thought but almost impossible.
We do not become aromantic and sexual when we get with someone else. They can only want to be with you, but most people will not stop seeing others as attractive, it's nearly impossible. You also have to consider that, realistically, she has called other men such things and if you broke up she'd call other men those things. That's life.
Mind you, you can find a super devoted, monogamous person who will happily be with you, which is a beautiful thing.
Why in the world would that be wrong? Most women would absolutely love to meet a man that said this to her. In my opinion, you sound like a pretty intelligent and great guy. Good for you, for having this viewpoint! :D
Im like that with my boyfriend. Im so in love with him I only find him attractive and I don't care about anyone else. But my boyfriend (ex) doesn't believe me when I say that. He thinks its impossible for someone to be like that so he broke up with me he told me he's had enough of my bullshit. I still think of him every day though and he's the only one in the world for me so no matter what Im GOING to get him back.
It's not wrong but it's incredibly unrealistic. It isn't like we stop noticing attractive people when we are in a relationship. You can still recognize the fact that other people are attractive or have appealing personality traits while still being loyal and dedicated to your partner. Nobody is perfect for anybody else. Life isn't that convenient.
That's only possible for certain people. It all boils down to luck. In the end, I never met anyone like that. I'm tired of giving my 100% for everyone and everything while every other guy around me does absolutely nothing, has an SO and gets laid 24/7. I've met countless guys that do nothing, their SO loves them. I hate my path. I'm tired of getting fucked over by everyone. Whenever I give my 100%, I end up with nothing. What kind of terrible fate is this? Every other guy gets laid with their SO with no effort. Even if I'm truthful it doesn't matter. Even if I can give someone happiness, it doesn't matter. I can't trust anyone ever again. I'm done.
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