I've been dating a girl for 2 weeks and honestly, I feel nothing for her. I feel really shitty because my ex and I broke up like a month ago and I'm not over her so I shouldn't be dating anyone else but I feel really lonely and have no one because all my friends are mad at me.
So I actually see this girl as a friend but she likes me in a different way. The problem is that if I tell her I wanna be just friends, she'll probably say no and stop talking to me or something so I'm dating her but I don't really want to? I just wanna have someone.
The thing is, I'm willing to see what happens and maybe I'll end up developing feelings for her in the future? she's pretty and we get along really well.
Am I doing something shitty? In a way I feel like I'm using her but I do like her as a person so I don't know if I am or not.
Don't date someone you don't like.. That's just a recipe for disaster. I know how people feel wicked vulnerable around the time of a breakup but that can't be solved by immediately jumping into another relationship. That would just be a recipe for disaster.. You have to care about yourself for a while and build up your self esteem again. The time this can take can vary depending on the circumstances but it is very much possible. You're completely worth it and I believe in you :)
Tell her you want to put things on hold, at least temporarily. Tell her you care for her as a friend, but you are still messed up from breaking up with your ex, and you thought you were ready to really date again, but you aren't sure. Tell her you want to give her a real chance for things to develop between you, but for that to happen, you might need to stop things, romantically, at least for a while, while you clear your head. She might be hurt, but especially if she's ever had a bad break, hopefully she'll understand. Make sure she knows you want to sort things out in your head, and make sure you think of her as someone special, and not as a rebound girl.
The feeling of not wanting to be lonely is so often seen on girls I feel like they r fish or sheepherd. I know many who would stay in a relationship just for the fact of not being "alone" but I never heard it from guys, guess this is not the worst thing in the world for us. At least your relation is not toxic or abusive in any kind, right? So it's ok staying under an umbrella
i say keep going for now, it's only been 2 weeks. you're still probably getting to know her, and you still dealing with other emotional problems. there is still plenty of opportunity for you to develop feelings for her, even though there's no initial attraction. besides if you're getting along really well with her, why stop?
It might seem to other people that I'm doing something like that. I went on a few dates with a guy who was crazy about me but I didn't return those feelings. He still wanted to keep hanging out knowing this, until one of us finds someone we want to pursue more seriously. I couldn't really convince him otherwise since I still do enjoy his company, so we still eat and watch movies a couple times a week. Sometimes there may be a little kissing but I don't let it go beyond that point as to not send the wrong message.