In my experience this can take at least a few months to determine in some cases. Does anyone have a more sure fire way to figure this out? It kind of sucks realizing that shit gradually over several months.
Well you could just straight up ask them what they think about relationships and such. The people I've met who have commitment issues, have been pretty straightforward about it. Such people tend to be pretty wishy-washy in general, like they don't want to define your relationship and they never talk about exclusivity etc.
You don't need several months. You can tell from the first profile glance if you're dating online. And the first conversations with the person. You gotta look out for how they present their outlooks and their speech patterns. How they're define their future. And their past.
Plus, what do you mean by "commitment issues"? Please define. And you must also look at yourself in this equation. You keep gravitating towards people who have "commitment issues" because so far your choices and patterns have been leading you to the same, i. e.., commitment issues!
But to be fair, let me ask you this: what do you want from a relationship? And please do define what you mean by "commitment issues."
This is not unchangeable. You just need to know where you are now to get to where you want to be.
Honestly, for me, if we're going on dates and the topic of what we are NEVER comes up in conversation, it is clear that they only want something casual. If you always have to chase them, if they never seem willing to go past a certain point - they don't want to be committed.
Lol, I don't. I have commitment issues, but even so, I wouldn't be able to tell if the other person did. I'm very oblivious to some things. Despite this, I am aware of the way a person acts in a relationship. I mark every red flag I see, but even so, I ignore them.
I look how they are with their family and some of their friends. It's not exactly a 100% true case every single time but for me, the guys I tried dating in the past had issues with his parents and only one friend but no one he said was a close friend. That was probably a red flag right there.
So for a woman, just see how she is with her friends or family. You can casually ask if they are celebrating a holiday coming up, or New Years. Maybe you can also casually ask about her goals in life, and if she brings up that some day she wants a family of her own that might be a good indicator she wants commitment. I am not sure how to quickly spot this, and not sure if it will take less than a few weeks of knowing her.