I actually want a woman who stays at home and cooks, cleans and takes care of the kids, that's worked for most of history, I'm not about to change it up. "Independent" women are usually harder to get along with because they have bigger egos, and they focus on their work more then the family, if both parents are focusing on work more then family than we have a problem, cause the family isn't going to work, thats why divorce rates are so high, so no independent woman for me, I'm completely okay with a dependent one.
I look at it like this: if someone was 100% fully independant, no one would be looking for a soul-mate. The definition of independant is being self sufficient. If we as humans were fully self sufficient, then why do we feel the need to grow an emotional attachment with someone? Why do we feel lonely in the long-term?
So considering that, my answer is just inbetween. I want to be able to make my own money, build my own self, but also need someone I can go to arms open when I'm feeling weak, when I need love or even when I need a power source. And it's the same both ways also for men towards woman.
Independence is a must. But not necessarily in the way you described. I mean emotionally independent. Like someone who is a whole person without the need for someone else to make them whole. A couple should compliment each other, not require each other to be whole.
I don't mind paying for dinner. I don't mind being protective when needed. I don't mind opening the door. I don't mind taking the lid off the jar. I don't mind fixing things for her. But I DO mind someone who is emotionally dependent, insecure, clingy, etc.
You can take either idea way too far. Independent to the point she has no value for or to the man besides sex, or too dependent to the point she is a burden on the man. Ideally both people should be able to depend on each other adding to the value of each others lives, while not draining too much on the strength of the other. Our society likes to take things to one extreme or the other. In most cases balance is what is needed. Often women that are in that balance can be seen as being either dependent or independent to those that are out of balance.
Err no. They want a woman who is like a cat. She would spend her time on her own but she would cuddles and make funny, happy sounds when he's around and also play with him. She would occasionally feed him and make purring sounds as he touches her. If he leaves her alone then she is also okay with that and just move on to do her own things and look pretty.
So yeah, a guy wants a woman who is strong enough to stand on her own but sometimes vulnerable enough for some protections. That gives him the boost of confidence he needs but not a constant thing so he can do something else instead of being her personal bodyguard.
Call me old-fashioned but if I'm going to start dating, I want to be the provider and protector and I'd want to be depended on..
I want a faithful woman who is in it because she believes I am part of her calling in life, and I wind up believing the same about her being a part of my calling. If she's introverted or extroverted, as long as she's dutiful, I could adapt to work with either one. Unfaithful women who are dependent will cheat with whomever they think provides better. Unfaithful women who are independent think they are goddesses, and their pride destroys everything good in their lives.
Your way too black and white. We want a woman that can stand on her own. But there is a need within a man to protect his woman and his family. That is in our DNA. So yes, we want her to want us to protect her. We want her to need us to take care of things for her. even if she can do it herself. (not all the time)
Well, i myself like a women who can get things done and wouldn't rely on me to do stuff or correct her all the time. She does not have to have a career, but she must have a "can do" attitude and means to get whatever needs getting done. I can protect a woman, it's totally fine, but i also wanna know she would be fine and keep things running in our life if i suddenly drop ill and cannot leave the bed for a week.
Soooo, indepent, not a must. Self-dependent, definitely a must.
No lol this is one of the contradictions of men. They don't want a golddigger, they complain about having to pay for everything, then on the same breath they bash independent women saying we're not "feminine enough".
Of course not all men are like this. But many are and it's confusing. But we women do contradict ourselves as well so, I guess no one's perfect.
Looks good on paper but living with them is another diff story
There's nothing all of anybody likes. It's a gender, not a personality. Gender doesn't mean they all like the same thing... the thing these guys have in common is testosterone and genitals, what they like and dislike will vary.
Some people do want that, some don't. I like being independent.
Honestly, I have no clue why anyone would want someone who was dependent on them. Like seriously are you looking for a child or a wife? Plus, if a divorce happens the dude is totally screwed.
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