Was he just upset or did he mean it? He justifies his statement by saying nobody should be compared his mother. It's been a week and every time we look at eachother he has that look that shows he thinking about her. I feel really bad. I try to help him and say good things but he tells me he doesn't need emotional support.
When he's with his friends and they tend to talk about the negatives and he seems to thrive on that more... One of his mates talked about the date for the funeral and another mentioned how much he liked my BFs mothers pancakes...
I feel like shit because everything I say tends to be emotional like 'everything will be ok'... He responds sarcastically by saying 'where is she then?' And 'did you get that from a book?'.
Obviously I let everything he says slide because i understand his situation but why is he happy when his friends make comments but not me.
He came back from uni the other day with red eyes and obviously he was crying but when I asked his response was he doesn't need anyone. I feel useless and the other night I heard him praying while crying. How can I help him when he thinks he's above help?
Most Helpful Guy
your hurt? did you really just say Your hurt?
his mother is dead and all you think about is yourself. He is grieving. everyone grieves differently. He is going to be sad. but he is also going to be mad. You need to understand that. You can't console some people.
I know when I get in that kind of state anyone saying something like that is going to make me think the same thing. I just have better control of myself. Some don't. You can see that those coined sayings are not helping so just give him space. if your close he knows your there. I know I just want to be left alone when I am down.0
Most Helpful Girl
Wow, what a gigantic douchebag.
Yes, I get it, his mom died, very sad. That doesn't excuse treating you like shit, especially when you're trying your damnedest to support him through this.
If he's being so shitty to you while cool with his friends, it seems like he's using you as an emotional punching bag while trying to cope with the loss.
I wouldn't stand for such behaviour, to be honest. Who the fuck is HE to take out his anger on you?
It's not your fault his mom is dead. He has some nerve unloading his little bitch attitude on you.
Seriously, what a fucking prick.2
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