I've recently started dating a German guy. We've had two excellent dates; we talked endlessly and have definitely established a good friendly and intellectual connection. But he hasn't made a single move physically yet. He hasn't tried to hold my hand or kiss me. He has shown no indication of being physically attracted to me. He hasn't even complimented me once or spoken in any flirtatious way. I have been subtely flirtatious (unintentionally) on our last date, by bringing up some sexual topics (it totally suited the conversation though.) And generally just smiling and playing with my hair, that sort of thing...
I am pretty sure he likes me as a person, and enjoys spending time with me, cos he has extended both dates. The first time he was supposed to leave after 1 and a half hour, but stayed for 3. Second time, we were together for 7 hours! He has told me he would like to see me again after he is back from his trip home for Christmas.
Anyway I was wondering if this is a cultural difference, because in my experience if a guy is attracted to you, he would make it known in the first or second date. Or is he just not attracted to me.
If it's of any relevance, he is 42 years old.
Most Helpful Guy
thanks @NoClueFrau :) but i don´t know if i´m qualified... of course there is no "standard german way" but i guess most of us are quite reserved when it comes to physical stuff. also he´s 42, he might be way out of the dating game. just try getting physically with him and watch his reaction :)2
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Everything is normal when you date a German xD xD
Sorry for the racist comment. It was just a joke.
"Intellectual connection" = sounds German.
Dates would always be extended because there is no short talk. Every (At least most of) conversation would be deep and one topic would lead to another.
Even if he is attracted a lot to you, it would take a lot of time for that to verbally come out. Don't keep on directly or indirectly asking if he likes you or not. It would eventually all come out.
They may not be your normal flirtatious men. They grow up that way
Rather be clear about what you want physically. I dont know if your emotional needs would be fulfilled or not.
If he is not attracted to you, there would not even be a second date. So a second date is a solid sign.
There is a lot of generalization here and it may not be true for all of the German guys/men.
You are stepping into a dungeon. Good luck and enjoy exploring ;)2
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