a real nice guy won't have to tell you he is a nice guy. Seems like guys these days think that simply not pressuring a girl for sex right of the bat, that makes them a nice guy. There are really nice guys out there, they just won't tell they are. You'll know it
You're right. The "nice guy" doesn't exist. There are nicER guys out there but they still have asshole tendencies. After being pursued by who I thought was a "nice guy" for over a year, I gave him a chance. We got pregnant and after a few months of him saying he was committed and all that, he left me pregnant for a teenager who had just finished high school days before. Nice guys are usually assholes who've learned the right things to say.
Do not give up hope. the nice guys that will treat you right and respect you and honor your desires are all around you. the difference is they typically do not put themselves out in the forefront, due to the majority of pain they had suffered from being looked over since most women (girls) seek and or pick the bad boy.
most good guys are very patient and will not pursue someone who is not seriously looking for them in particular. most nice guys have been burnt on many occasions. So that doesn't help your chances when they see you taking an asshole in disguise. Nice guys know the intentions of other guys and when they see you picking a bad guy you are off the nice guys radar.
So it is all up to you. if you seriously want a nice guy with all the nice sweet intentions, then be patient enough to seek it and or wait for the path to cross. but when you continuously pick just anybody you limit your luck significantly.
bad dudes are are easy to spot, so the nice guy turning into asses is all your own misconception.
IF: you seriously desire a guy of your dreams then absolutely believe you will receive that. but if you focus on a nice guy is a front for asses then that is exactly what you draw towards you. so change your mindset and you will practice patience and blind faith that that one right guy is out there waiting to meet you and it will happen.
Look for the guy who doesn't care what people think. that way you can tell what his personality is.
Not evolution. Blatant Asshole > Asshole as Nice Guy. Most guys start out truly good and then turn into assholes because it works better. In essence assholes are guys who refuse to play by socially established rules because said rules do not work and cause negative consequences for them. You can't really except someone to continue playing by your rules when it causes them nothing but pain.
That's a bit true. And then people on the outside say "why is she with him? He's a jerk! All women love assholes!"
But they don't realize he wasn't an asshole from the getgo. He was nice and caring, but gradually he changed. Just little by little so you wouldn't notice it. So you won't freak out by a sudden flip of his personality. So then, years later, the changes are so gradual, you're left there wishing he was "like before". But you can't pinpoint when was the moment he changed because he did it little by little.
And then everyone around you sees it only now, and they declare women must love jerks. But he wasn't always like that. And you were just waiting for him to change back. And then he does do random acts of passion and romance with enough nagging, and you hope he continues. But it's rare. And he does the absolute minimum to make you stay. And he continues to decline.
But before you know it, it's too late. The sweet guy, quickly rotted and turned bitter. And you've been with him so long. That it's probably just that you're accustomed to him, and it's not even love. Or you love him but you're not in love anymore. You're desperate trying to revive the wilted flower. But the more water you pour, the more it rots.
Guys lie about stupid shit to us and a good at implying they are good guys. With experience you'll figure out which ones are worth dating or talking to and eventually dating. Treat it as a game it could be fun lol
The self-proclaimed "nice guys" usually aren't actually nice. Not all of them, but I've seen some that say they are but are really passive aggressive, sexist, or something. There are guys out there that aren't like this, I know a few but of course they are already taken.
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