Some of you have the mind state that you can live alone forever, some of you feel you need a partner at some point in life. Some of you don't even reslly care. Theirs other obligations though, like my obligations. I haven't learned to move past that selfish stage do it'd be hard for me to have a partner. I'm a nice guy though, I'm a cancer so it means the world to me see my woman smile cuz of me. But there's sooo many things I desire for myself, more money, bigger home, faster car, etc... It's hard for me to part from my ambition, but for the right woman is do it. But I'm confused because I see so bang faked relations and all the heart ache and drama they bring lol. Fights, cheating, lies, vebal attacks and pain... I'm almost tempted to stay alone forever... I'm beginning to feel no woman is worth me enduring those consequences for a life, how about you? Do you enjoy being alone or do you need a partner at some point in life?
Like someone said above me, having a companion is the best thing ever. But when you get in a relationship with someone, you could either live happily ever after, (rarely nowadays), or you can lose them. Losing them is such a terrible pain, that its not even worth getting attached anymore. When my first love left me, and dated someone a week later, i cried myself to sleep every single night. Very terrible pain.
Part of me wishes and hopes that maybe one day, a decent girl that doesn't play any games, and actually wants to settle down will come into my life, but right now, i just dont give a fuck. Find em, Fuck em, Forget em.
I definitely fall into the group who knows they need a companion in life. Being alone is one of my number one fears. I'm 100% sure I want to be able to share every part of my life with. The good times, the not so good. Be able to offer them support whenever needed, and know I can lean on them in my own times of need. :)
It's that simple. I need someone by my side. Usually I want a male, but nothing but a true friendship, one where I can just speak with him about whatever and he'd just come around even if I was not feeling well. One who made me feel pretty everyday, even though I know I'm pretty. Someone I can call at 3 o clock in the morning and cry to, and hold... because that would be the greatest thing in the world.
See, the negative points you are on about - if you both work at a relationship, approach it maturely and rationally when you have problems, learn to empathise with your partner... be attentive and caring, then you can have a happy relationship. I don't understand why people think all relationships are filled with shit. That isn't what a relationship is, that's what people let it become. They allow it to deteriorate. You find yourself someone who genuinely likes you, that you have genuine interests in common and who has the same idea about what she wants from a relationship as you... then why couldn't you be happy? And so what if it doesn't work out, are you that fragile that it would break you? Or stay alone if that makes you happy. No need to change something if it makes you happy. You may regret it later though, when you see friends with their kids and family, and then their grandchildren, while you get older and older and more and more of your friends die until you're left alone. That sadly is the reality of a bachelor.
hmmm. I don't know. i have my best friend. i have the friends i talk to. my family. it would be nice to have a constant companion, but i'm not sure about the feasibility. i'm a moody person, got a number of hang ups... probably not conducive to a relationship.
Im young, im not scared at the moment. However, when the time comes where everyone of my peers are off with their s/o, getting married and having children... then i'd start to worry haha. But then again, i have my boyfriend right now who i love very much and see a future with. Its hard to tell if we will get that far, but again, im young and there's more important things to occupy my mind than being forever alone. I actually like my alone time a lot too, so thats a plus😌👍🏼
I certainly enjoy having some time alone, independence, etc. But I'm at that point in my life where I've accomplished or am in the process of accomplishing my major goals for myself. It would be nice to have someone special to care for and have to celebrate those accomplishments with.
It's too early in life for me, but I'e always been independent. I prefer to be on my own, helping out friends once in a while but coming home alone. I like it and do not think I need a companion. That might change later, I don't know but I voted for the last option.
Honestly, I've always been fine on my own, but it's nice to have someone significant to share moments with. I can't be one of those women who is always clinging to some fellow, but I think companionship with one person (not a nest of hookups) is nice.
Either way is fine. I'm OK being by myself the rest of my life. I'm OK with a partner also. If I had a partner, I'm sure I'd be glad I had them. But I don't and it doesn't bother me being by myself forever.
To be completely honest though, I think the desire to be with someone is repressed and shoved deep into hiding. I think there's a part of me that wants to hold someone more than anything. I deal with what is though, not what's not. So that thought lasts like 10 seconds. :)
The way I look at this is to have someone also guarantees that you have someone to lose. Same goes for that it's a guarantee that they will eventually lose you at some point. Relationships are not exactly "forever" despite what everyone seems to claim. Almost always a spouse or partner dies before the other unless they happen to die at the same time and that's really random. Divorces are the even worse situations.
I figured that if I have absolutely no one then the only things I have to lose is just what I have left, and well eventually I will lose them ALL anyway.
I think it's easier to not get so emotionally attached to stuff I owned overtime compared to when you are with someone in a committed relationship as the thought of losing them is just terrible, because you would have been very emotionally attached and invested in them thus it would hurt so much more compared to having absolutely "no one" to lose. There will still be hurt, pain and and suffering regardless in some form or way because that's just the way it's going to be, either more or less.
I have been single for over 5 years now. There are times when I feel lonely, and crave for a partner. But this is not a constant feeling. I enjoy the freedom and independence that comes along with being a single man.
I would probably WANT to find a partner and settle down eventually, but I don't think I would NEED a partner. So I voted C.
I think I could be alone forever. I think I could have a partner too. I'm happy either way and very happy right now being single. I'm not willing to compromise my freedom, and lower my standards or settle for less to simply not be alone. Being married or dating isn't always all it's cracked up to be. It can be a living hell or awesome depending on a lot of things.
Being in a relationship has advantages. So does being alone. I can do whatever I want, where I want, how I want, when I want without having to concern myself with how my activities may or may not impact my girlfriend or wife, what their desires are or limit my life voluntarily in the best interest of my girlfriend or wife. I don't have to answer to anyone but God and myself. If I want to buy something expensive, stay out with the guys until 4:00 AM, or watch football all day on Sunday, I don't have to worry about how my choices will impact or be approved of or not. I damn sure don't have to deal with disapproving glances from wife upon arrival home after playing cards with the guys until 4:00AM or buying my 15th gun at a price of $1,000 dollars on a whim from a wife. I don't have to deal with nagging for watching Football all day on Sunday and not spending time with my girlfriend. That said I have total freedom.
Both marriage and relationships have their rewards and liabilities. Ask a divorced guy if his marriage was worth it after his wife cheated with a guy, divorced him, took 1/2 his business and he now pays $700 a month in alimony. Ask another guy who's been happily married for 50 years. Either outcome is possible or an outcome in the middle. Marriage is a risky proposition and I loose nothing by being single. I miss out on certain things too, but to me it's fine for the gain of total freedom. Same goes for dating. Relationships can be very risky propositions too.
For me I'm fine being single. If the right gal comes along, I might consider dating and after a lengthy courtship marriage. If not, I'm fine with that too. I won't compromise on my standards to achieve that and greatly value my total freedom so much I'm not sure I'm willing to give that up for anyone. I don't have any relationship drama to deal with. I don't have the numerous possible advantages of a relationship either. I'm not lonely. I have my family and friends to hang out with when I don't want to be by myself.
It would take one hell of a girl to convince me to give up total freedom for a relationship or marriage.
For one it's great to have your own ambitions. I'm not even half close where I want to be atm, but I'll make sure I get there. I work hard every day for it and never leaves my mind.
Being with someone has to ALWAYS be secondary, you don't need to be with anyone and certainly you can't make it a priority and put it on top of your own goals. Sure, the company is nice and all but if someone wants to be with you cool, if not the door is always open. I'm not married (and not even remotely thinking of it), so whoever wants to be there can enter and then leave if they wanted to. No reason to commit, or sacrifice what I worked hard for at this point.
Honestly, not all relationships have to be built around drama and bullshit fights. Those type of things come from insecure and abusive people, who can't even hold their own candle. Some people haven't even figured out themselves, so how do you expect them to maintain any relationship?
My only advice is to keep working on your own stuff, if you don't want to commit that is perfectly understandable, specially if you end up with someone abusive (everyone makes bad characters judgement after all) but that doesn't mean you can't date. Just don't put yourself too much out there, for anyone.
I really want a partner to be with for life. Someone who makes me happy and I make them happy, but I'm fairly certain that I could live life alone and be content. Although, I do need children. That is something that I could not do without as I get older.
I am so used and conditioned to being alone that if I never ever get into another relationship then I won't be dying a sad man, what worries me is that I'll get too old and will have no one around but if that does happen then I will join activity clubs and meet new friends that way. I would love to be married to the right woman, have children and be the Dad to them that I wish I had (coming from a broken home isn't great) but alas if it's not meant to be, that's okay, no harm done, no regrets, no anger or bitterness. I'll deal with the cards that life gives me and I'll make the most of life.
I feel I need one. I'm so unhappy alone, people try to say I'm lucky but that's their opinion not mine. The lack of a companion or anyone to talk to has a negative effect on how you feel daily and really goes against what humans are, social creatures. I want to talk to someone about my day, spend time doing things together, hearing we love one another, and knowing she wants me as much as I want her.
I've been single for way to long, so hard to meet the "right" person, when it's already hard to meet anyone. Being single does have a lot of advantages, but in my opinion it gets too lonely. And things shouldn't be what makes you happy.
I'm 26, still a virgin, never had a girlfriend, and never been on a date. I want a companion but I don't think that will ever happen. Some of us guys are screwed for life when it comes to getting a girlfriend..