I'm 21. I go to this private college.. And I literally have not made one friend in the 3 years I have been here. Many acquaintances.. A lot of guys only view me in a sexualized way because I have a curvy, this waisted body and a pretty face. But honestly, I don't think they like anything else about me, and whatever they do like is just something they project onto me. I really keep to myself.. I don't like giving my mental or physical self to just anyone and I desire strong relationships and friendships... I don't like weak bonds that just fill time and space.
I dont think guys like me because I'm quiet and it takes a while for anyone to get to know me. I compare myself to other chicks, and they are so talkative, young, fun... And I just keep most of it in. When I'm with my friends from home or by myself, I am a real great deal of fun and I am funny and vibrant. But here, and with others, something drains me. I think I come off as boring and I don't think I'll ever meet anyone. There's this guy I've been talking to and I think he doesn't like me anymore because I'm not this talkative, initiative, flirty girl who is into cool dude things and drinks or parties on weekends. We've only hung out twice, which for me isn't a lot to open myself up to, but now I feel guilty and boring for how I presented myself.
Most Helpful Guy
Stop feeling guilty about how u r or how u choose to present yourself to the world
As for friends well ull find them, eventually all it takes is a fuckup and then people will come to u.
In the meanwhile make friends here and spend time with them1
Most Helpful Girl
Don't feel bad or guilty for any of this. You can only be yourself. I am a quiet person, and sometimes I feel that people do not like me because they think I'm stuck up. Which I'm not. I just have a hard time talking to people sometimes. I'm shy and sometimes when I am around people who talk a lot, it can be hard to be a part of the conversation. People I know talk about people I do not know so how can I be a part of that conversation? Plus, I'm a better listener.
But please do not feel bad. You just need to find a guy who is willing to take the time to get to know you. I find there are a lot of people who either don't care to get to know people or who won't take the time to get to know someone. They would rather just jump into things or not really have anything real. That's fine, but there are still those out there who will take the time and be patient.
Keep being yourself. You are not boring. I used to think I was boring, but so many people have told me I am not. You just need to stop feeling bad about being yourself. There is nothing wrong with who you are :)1