I noticed recently that a lot of people get salty over a person who wants someone who is financially stable. Yes, some people take it over board (ex: "If you don't have a hefty bank account than I ain't interested")- that statement is over the top. However, why is it that if a man or woman wants a partner who is financially supportive and stable, they get bashed on for it?
I know it's terrible, it's like how I get bashed for wanting a woman that hasn't been serviced by a double digit amounts of dicks, servicing more dick than a clinic. There's nothing wrong with wanting a financial stable partner providing you are also financially stable and have money to throw on the table. If you don't, then you don't warrant such a man.
It's a reaction to all the man-bashing, equality chanting, sexuality shaming circulating around. Women want financial stability and act as if that's a reasonable thing (which it is, don't get me wrong), but then bitch about men wanting a housewife or when they only care about a woman's looks. It's favouring one gender's perspective over another, and since men seem to have very little forums to address their perspective on any issue without being shamed for it (being called cry babies, being mocked with 'male tears' insults, etc), they naturally come online and vent their frustrations/explode in either violence or vocal protest.
Generally women want that person to have more money than them which is the problem. It's ok to expect them to have around as much but numerous people demand that he has more
Men don't look for this, in general. Women use it as code for 'a guy who earns as much -or more- than I do or has reasonable prospects of doing so soon'.
Men resent being told they must be equal to women in all things while still maintaining traditional extra responsibilities.
Firstly, let's be honest about the fact that this is very much a gender specific issue. It is women who seek "financially stable partners", and men who resent it. Because honesty is a big part of the problem here. This is an issue about which women have largely been very dishonest.
Secondly, men resent this piece of female nature because women have been all about "equality equality equality" for a long time but yet men are STILL expected to be the primary earners and our value is STILL based largely on our earning power, because that is the other side of the coin that women don;t care about in the whole equality thing. Women have every opportunity today to earn just as much as men today, but they CHOOSE not to and then complain that the reason women earn 85% of what men earn is sexism.
When I say choose, I'm talking about the fact that, on average, women choose less challenging and less lucrative career paths, they choose to study frivolous majors in college more often than men, they choose jobs with more flexible hours over higher paying ones, they choose to work fewer hours than men and they choose to remove themselves from the workforce for extended periods.
The bottom line is that women SAY they want to erase gender roles but then they only apply that to the ones that they don't like. They are more than happy to hang on to the ones that benefit them at the expense of men.
Now, if you can, try to honestly put yourself in men's shoes for a moment and ask yourself how you would feel about that whole scenario. Most of this would be much easier for men to swallow if women would just be more honest. About what women want for themselves and what they want from men. It's really the dishonesty that is so off putting.
I'm 21, so I know people in my age range do not have large sums of money (which is not a deciding factor in whether or not to date someone). I do however want to be with someone who is fiscally responsible. I'd much rather be with "a poor queen" than a "money rich fool."
I respect that request, perhaps because I am the same type of person. I know I will make good money in my career, just because I make good choices, but when looking for a woman career outlook is pretty important to me, I would prefer if she was studying medicine, engineering, finance/business, or one of the sciences that way she will definitely get a job, but I suppose since I make good money as is that isn't as much of a requirement as it could be.
It's a sign of the times. Before 1970 or so (don't quote me), women were mos seem as stay at home mothers and men the sole snd main breadwinners, so it was looked upin as ok for a woman to seek out financial stability in a mate. Feminism, more women in the work place, changing ideologies about dating and/or marriage attributes to the bashing of women who seek a financially stable mate. In the case of men who seek financial stability, I believe that no matter the chronological date, the very definition of masculinity often rests in a man being protector, provider, etc... All in all, don't worry about what people say, do what's best for you. There will always be people with opinions, whether favorable or not.
Well... for me, I would like to have a financially stable partner so we will be able to support our family in the future. Able to buy a decent house for our family to live in and have enough to buy food too. Literally, it's hard to not have enough money to buy all those kinds of things when you are poor. I have some of my relatives in the Philippines (a very poor country) and half of them live in some places that they only have a roof, walls, and only one bed for their whole family to sleep in. They barely have enough money to buy food for their children. So, I kind of have this fear of not being able to provide these basic things if I have a family in the future... That's why I would like to have a financially stable partner.
I don't think people really get bashed for wanting a financially stable partner. I would think most people would want that. There is a difference between wanting a financially stable partner and wanting someone who will financially support you.