Well the fact remains that if you're white you have a superior position in the dating world. White people aren't objectively superior but our society certainly props up whiteness and European beauty standards. I think sometimes when a white guy says he likes a nonwhite woman it can turn heads because he's going for something that less people in society deems attractive or desirable. Again women of all ethnic backgrounds can be gorgeous and I don't discriminate based on race but I'm just talking about how society looks at it sometimes. People think that he must have an unhealthy sexual fetish or just wants to sleep with a black woman or whatever as a reason to crossing those racial lines.
In reality there are white men and black women who fetishize each other just like there are white women and black men who fetishize each other and it isn't healthy. I've seen examples of this in my own life. If you're attracted to someone you should like them as an individual not because they're some prized racial trophy. Interracial dating can be a beautiful and enriching experience learning about different cultures if it's done for the right reasons. It can be explosive if it's done for the wrong reasons like I mentioned earlier.
I've never heard of it being called a "slave fantasy" before but from experience, it's because that's how they act. Most white guys that has been interested in me has always mentionedyou race over and over. "I've never been with a black girl before." "I've always wanted to be with a black woman." "Being with a black girl is a fantasy of mine." I've heard them all before. So I can't help but feel like it's less about wanting to actually be with me and more about feeding a kink. And I know it's not all white guys.
I never heard anything about "Slave Fantasy". It sounds more like some SM game. However I can somehow relate.
When my white ex girlfriend dated me she was told she had "Jungle Fever". Even though I was the only black guy she ever dated. People say a lot of stuff they never ever thought about what it actually means. And people are too much fixated on race.
I don't know if you are in this situation or not but if so, just let them talk and just do what you want to do.
I guess since white men were the "leaders" of slavery I guess you could say. But hah, let me walk around with a white guy and someone comes in my face with this bullshit. See, how fast I punch them in the throat 💅