Let's be real, we all have our good features and bad features about ourselves but I like to believe that for most of us our plusses outweigh our flaws. However, there's a lot of people out there that struggle to get dates and into relationships despite being all-around good people. We all know there are two sides to the attraction coin; a physical and emotional connection are both needed to create or sustain attraction. But unlike physical attraction, which develops pretty quickly, emotional connections take longer to develop because you need to see multiple aspects of the person's personality to really get a feel for them. Something that can't really be achieved in the span of a couple dates. And yet people are dismissed as potential relationships because there was no "spark" in such a short period of time, and because of this, a lot of great people are either dismissed or never given a chance in the first place.
So back to the question title: why do you think people don't want to date you?
A) Do you think it's because people are too impatient and don't want to try to see your great personality through all the initial awkwardness and nervousness that often accompanies getting to know someone new?
B) Or do you think its because you don't put yourself out there enough and allow other people the chance to see what a great person you are?
C) Or do you think you're just ass ugly and no amount of a great personality could ever compensate for the utter lack of physical attraction?
Obviously these aren't mutually exclusive but I just wanna get a feel from everyone. For me it's definitely A and B. My personality's the type that grows on you gradually over time instead of being immediate. I just think a lot of people don't have the patience for gradual and want immediate.
Anyways, give me yo answers.
- It's because I'm a sparkling gem and nobody has the patience to wait for the awkwardness to pass.22% (12)12% (7)17% (19)Vote
- Nah, it's because I'm too closed-off from people so I don't even give them the opportunity to know me.20% (11)39% (23)30% (34)Vote
- Nooope, it's because I'm fugly as balls. If I was a pile of shit, not even the dirtiest pig would wanna roll around in me!15% (8)12% (7)13% (15)Vote
- A & B22% (12)14% (8)18% (20)Vote
- A & C2% (1)0% (0)1% (1)Vote
- B & C9% (5)15% (9)12% (14)Vote
- A, B, & C10% (6)8% (5)9% (11)Vote
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All of the above for me. Like you, I think it takes a while for people to warm to my personality. There's nothing about me that would just catch a girl on the spot. Also for C, I wouldn't say I'm fuggy but I'm nothing special and I'm lacking the height to catch a girl's attention right off the bat.1