I'm in my 30s and I have a good career, nice condo that I owe very little on, nice car, no real debt. It has taken me years to get to this point. I sacrificed all of my 20s and 30s to pay off my student loans and to put extra payments on my condo. I can finally breathe because I've paid my dues and debt and I finally feel comfortable and ready to live life. I've met someone who is sooo kind, family oriented, no kids, never married (but wants those things) loves dogs, loves me and is so easy to talk to and be myself around, I'm comfortable with him. But he has nothing going on for himself. No career, no college, still has roomates (his brothers), no retirement. If we married and had kids, I'd have to support all of us. But as someone pointed out, stay at home dads are common these days. Run Forrest run or keep dating him? My bio clock is ticking, so I can't waste time dating if it's not going to work out.
Most Helpful Guy
I hate to say it, but RUN! From the sound of it, you like nice things. I do too! Nice things aren't cheap. It is a DOUBLE income society! Love does not pay the bills! You are right! You will be supporting everyone! You have worked hard for what you have and where you are at. It isn't fair to let someone sorta like butt up into line in life without them putting in their dues first! I know your clock is ticking, but don't let the ovaries do all the talking here! If he hasn't established much by now, he never will. It will become hard to have the things you want with him not contributing much financially. Having a family is expensive! You need someone who is going to pull their share money wise too! Good luck!0
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Most Helpful Girl
If you make bank, why not use that to open your options up to include a guy who isn't a huge earner? Does he have a job at all? It's worth taking it slow at first and seeing how things turn out. I have a friend who did this and her guy actually ended up developing a decent career once he wasn't scrambling to make ends meet and had emotional support.0
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