I am 25... and I gotta say, I hate dating sometimes. I have no problem getting a woman's number and going on a few dates... but dating can become costly when you are paying for you and the woman.
The last time I went on a date, we went to the Cheesecake Factory. The girl I was with ordered a lot of food and I also got a few things. Between the both of us, all of that cost me $120. So, basically, I had to pay for her and for myself.
I see this quite often. It's like, if a girl knows she doesn't have to pay, she gets more stuff. Like this one girl I was with before, we went out for drinks. I ordered 1 drink the entire night and she got 5. That tab cost me $40.
This isn't the 1950s anymore. I view relationships as a partnership and both parties are equal, liable and responsible for what they get when they go out. A guy shouldn't be made to pay for everything, and a woman should pay for her own stuff. I think that's fair.
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Most Helpful Girl
I think a man should at least offer to pay for the first date, especially if he did the asking. However, when I'm on a date, I will order 1/2 drinks and a basic main meal, nothing extravagant. I will always offer to go Dutch, I'm impressed by a guy who's willing to pay for the first date, it means he's old school, which I like but after that, I'm happy to pay for myself or split it or whatever. The only reason I want a guy to pay first is I've dated enough losers to know, him 'forgetting his wallet' or just paying his half is 100% a sign the guy is a dick and doesn't see this going anywhere or he's a guy who will be a drain on me and MY money. I work a minimum wage job, I can pay my own way and I'm not interested in anyone else's money but as I don't want someone spending my money, I won't spend theirs either. I'm not an expensive girlfriend, I don't ask to be paid for all the time but just for a first date, I want a guy to show his interest. I'm sure I'll get down voted but sorry, that's just my opinion.14
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Most Helpful Guy
Keep it simple. Pay for yourself and leave it at that.
The idea that you should pay for someone because you invite them is stupid. If they couldn't afford to pay for themselves all they have to do is say, "i don't have enough money for that". That's where the conversation of who pays will take place. You might even change venue if neither can afford to pay for two.
If we're talking about how things should be from a societal standpoint, whoever invites the other buys does not work. Because society also pushes for the man to be the asker. Many women will never be the one to ask the guy out. They'll just leave the door open for him to ask her. Which leads to men always paying or paying 90% of the time.
So yes, guys and girls. If someone invites you on a date that requires money, think about whether or not you can afford to pay your way. If not. Then speak up and say so before hand. The guy actually might decide on new plans instead of being stuck with the bill at the end of the night. That's BS that can easily be avoided.2
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