I have been dating her for 7 months and I love her a lot. And she loves me as well. She went to a party last week. It was mostly girls there and 2 guys. And one of the guy approached her. And she told me about him. And apparently they talked a lot through out the whole party. She went home at around 3 in the morning. She did take one shot as she told me. She told me that she mentioned me in the conversation when he was asking her about her life and stuff. I feel like she didn't have to talk to him the whole time she was there. She could have talked to one of her friends! The thing is that I feel jealous, this feeling in my heart that something bad happened or like she didn't tell me something, like left out something. She told me that he was nice and I asked her if they exchanged number and she said she didn't. And honestly chances are they are probably not gonna see each other again. I don't know why I get so jealous when it comes to her talking to guys. She tells me everything and she is sweet. And I trust her. But I can't get rid of this feeling. I almost want to break up with her! Should I? I feel like that wouldn't solve the problem because if I go date someone else it'll be the same problem because there will always be other guys talking to girlfriend.
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You never want to come off as jealous, bro. That can put a lot of unnecessary strain on a relationship. Think about it from her perspective: in all likelihood, everything happened as she said it did, so imagine how frustrating it would be to deal with you freaking out about something that didn't even happen, and not giving her the benefit of the doubt, and now she's wondering if she's allowed to go anywhere alone without you getting bugged out.
My motto with women has always been: you just gotta let the birds fly. Girls, and just people in general, are going to do what they're going to do. It's completely out of your control, the only thing in your control is how you respond. I get that you love her and all, but you can't act like she's your first or last girlfriend ever, even if she is. Everybody is replaceable at the end of the day, once you get past the flowery romantic sentiments. I'm not saying to treat her like she doesn't matter, but you have to have the mindset where you know you'll be just fine whether she stays or goes. Don't outwardly say that to her of course, but just know it in your own mind.
So just take her on her word, that's all you can do. It probably happened the way she said it. Don't let your imagination run wild on you, you'll drive yourself nuts every time you're apart. Unless you have a solid reason to believe otherwise, you have to trust in the love you guys have. And few things will push a woman away faster than jealousy, so don't be that guy. Trust is a major part of a relationship, and if you don't have it, that's more of a threat to it than infidelity is. Remember that you guys don't own each other, you just trust in one another to do the right thing. And flip the situation: what would you be thinking if you talked to some girl at a party platonically, disclosed your relationship to her, and just had a good conversation, whether she was hitting on you or not, and you go home and get the third degree from your girl about it? I've been there myself, and it fucking sucks. So again, don't be that guy. You love your girl, she loves you, and you've been together for a few months where you should have an idea of what she's about. I'm not saying a girl has never cheated before, but unless you have reason to think she's that type, there's no reason to trip. And if you think she's that type, you shouldn't be with her anyway, and the jealousy is a moot emotion. It wouldn't sweat it, bro.4