Ok so over a year ago I dated this girl I met through an online site. We went out 5 times. And I'll never forget after our first date where we spoke for over 3 hours she texted me right after how she was about to give up on dating until she met me that evening.
I was falling for her fast. After our second and third date she'd text me after saying what a great time she had - how great it was seeing me etc. On our last date she invited me to spend half a day with her. We walked her dogs in the park, went to her place to hang out, cook dinner, and watch TV. But after this date she slowly began to disapear and distance herself from me.
I didn't try kissing her once. I didn't try holding her hand. I didn't try putting my arm around her or even complimenting her outside of text. No wonder she lost interest. I was so scared I was going to screw up I didn't take any chances and screwed up because of it. And I just let her disapear.
Now over a year later I noticed her profile when I checked 'people you may know'. And over the last few days I've had serious thoughts of sending her a FB message just letting it all out about why I didn't take initiative and why I want to sate her again. I'm fairly sure she is still single.
How would you react to this? I feel like such a creep and extremely desperate for even thinking of this. I've had a short relationship with someone since I last saw her and have had dozens of dates. None of them compare wo what I felt with her. Should I go through with it? Do I need to just let this go? I'm really torn on this...
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DONT say anout taking initiative! You're assuming thats what the problem was, but you have no idea whether that was the case or not! Without knowing that was the problem, explaining it is very strange, and I think would seriously ruin all chances. This early in a relationship you shouldn't apologise/explain you're behaviour, just let it slide instead of drawing focus.
Just send a casual message, asking how she's been and gauge how to respond and lead it further based on her responses.
But please under no circumstances "let it all out". Bad plan. Start fresh.1
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