Hey everyone, merry Christmas to all of yous! :)
My boyfriend isn't speaking to me since the day before Christmas eve, he got annoyed with me that I was only getting his presents the day before Christmas eve, I work nights so I'm sleeping all days so it was hard for me to get out, but I did it and got him great stuff he wanted, cost me 298 euros. I told him I was heading out to get them and he was like'what? You don't even have my stuff yet? Iv been saving for months and I got your presents and your only getting them now? Your so selfish DON BOTHER GETTING ME ANYTHING ?' I didn't know what to say I was so shocked I couldn't even speak, so he hung up, I went out anyways. Got the stuff went home and wrapped them up. he didn't speak to me the whole day , Christmas eve he texted saying I can go down to his and get My presents and I carry his down, he did not say thank you or smiled at me or a hug or a kiss or said sorry, I said are u Still annoyed Over yesterday? He said yes I am your just do selfish, he said ' you make more money then me and you couldn't even go out weeks ago and got my present, I explained that I'm asleep all day till 5 then back in work at 9 -7am , I said 'okay I'm just going to go home thank u for my present ' he said 'ye thanks' I got annoyed and hurt so I made a face like just sighing to myself, he seen it and got so angry he burst out ' take your fu*kin presents back I don't want them now u selfish person get your money back carry them home I don't want thrm' so I left, obviously I left his presents with him Christmas morning he texts me ' thank u so much for my presents' he's been so off with me since tho, then he texted me saying next time he sees me he wants to talk to me. So there's my story about Christmas 2015, what is going on? Why did he act like this ,
I'll be so happy with answers I hope everyone had a lovely Christmas x
Most Helpful Guy
He likes to use the world "selfish" a lot, doesn't he? Does he even understand what that term means?
Granted, if it were me, I'd think you waiting until Christmas Eve was a little worrisome, just because it sounds like you didn't really care much about getting me something thoughtful. And if I'd been agonizing for a month and more about what to get you, that would rub me the wrong way. But "selfish" isn't the word I'd use to describe it. Perhaps a little insensitive.
But I've dated people who work a ton, like you. I know what it's like when their schedule is nuts; I dated someone who was actually home only two weekends every month, she traveled so much. She worked insane hours as a top-tier consultant and was everywhere from San Francisco to Toronto to Miami. She didn't get my gifts until very late one year and I totally understood. But the gifts made it clear that she'd been THINKING about ideas for a while.
Not selfish. Just busy. Does the latter situation describe what happened with you?2
Most Helpful Girl
Wow, he sounds like an arsehole. He should be grateful that you took the time to think of and choose a gift for him at all, who cares about when you go out to pick it up? He sounds extremely immature and petty. It's obvious that you were working very hard before Christmas and he should have respected that. You can probably do better.2